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What’s a social habit everyone seems to accept but you find really
annoying?
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|u/mrp0013 - 1 month
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|When people don't understand that listening is the most important part
|of the conversation.
|u/GOULFYBUTT - 1 month
|
|The amount of people I talk to who are very clearly just waiting for
|it to be "their turn" to speak again is astounding. Oftentimes they
|don't even wait, they just interrupt.
|u/affordablesuit - 1 month
|
|I work remotely. There is more than one person I work with who will
|talk for quite a while, and then when it's my turn they will
|clearly go back to their email or Slack or some other thing on
|their computer instead of listening. It's this awful combination of
|being overly verbose and unable to listen.
|u/GOULFYBUTT - 1 month
|
|There ain't nothin' wrong with being a yapper, but a yapper who
|can't listen is tough to like.
|u/amandaleighplans - 1 month
|
|This right here. I’m a yapper but I know when to shut up and I
|also listen well. I have a friend who is just a yapper and I
|find it hard to be around her for a while. When I talk she’s
|just waiting to be able to speak again, and I barely even get
|to talk when I’m with her anyways lol
|u/WonderingOfWanderers - 1 month
|
|I hate to say it but a close friend of mine is like this. She
|only wants to talk about herself 24/7 and doesn't even really
|respond or acknowledge when anyone else speaks unless it's to
|bring the conversation back around to herself. It's hard to
|be around someone like this in a one-on-one setting.
|u/TheBoogieSheriff - 1 month
|
|100%. It’s so glaringly obvious in a one-on-one setting
|too… I’ve had so many “conversations” with people who never
|care to ask me a single question about what’s going on in
|my life... Even after I set them up perfectly too, like
|“Omg, that sounds like a lot to handle. I’ve had a lot
|going on lately too…” Some people just lack the social
|awareness or empathy to stop talking about themselves and
|ask inquire about other people’s lives
|u/amandaleighplans - 1 month
|
|You nailed it. When my friend is in a large group she’s
|actually fine, but one on one is where she’s as you
|described. I’ve been recently thinking about hanging out
|with her less because I’ve been leaving these hangouts with
|a heightened feeling of annoyance/stress 🥲
|u/GOULFYBUTT - 1 month
|
|Same! I've been told I'm a yapper, but I've also been told
|I'm a good listener. With people like the friend you're
|talking about, it can honestly become draining to be around.
|When you get interrupted before you can finish a single
|sentence for the 12th time in 2 minutes... It's hard.
|u/SirYanksaLot69 - 1 month
|
|Too many people never stop talking as well. Both habits suck, but
|sometimes you have to get a word in edgewise.
|u/Zucchini-Nice - 1 month
|
|I'm not proud of it man but I know if I don't interject and say
|what I got to say I'll forget what I was going to say. I'm also
|used to just not getting to say anything or what I'm saying just
|being ignored
|u/fatima-9329 - 1 month
|
|I’ve got this one friend I can only handle in doses. She OFTEN calls
|me and yaps for a solid 30 minutes without a breath in between ,
|doesn’t ask about me, and then says “oh gotta go bye” and hangs up
|before I can even say bye lol. Contemplating how to end this
|friendship 😆😅 If I start talking I can tell she’s texting and not
|paying attention, and then will literally not acknowledge anything
|I’ve said and then just goes back to what she was talking about.
|u/RingJust7612 - 1 month
|
|Tell her you don’t want to be friends anymore. See how many times
|you have to say it before she even hears you. Drinking game: I’ll
|take a shot for every time you say it and she does not
|hear/acknowledge you
|u/Fickle-Secretary681 - 1 month
|
|A good listener is a dying breed. Everyone so busy talking about
|themselves. 
|u/ReferenceMuch2193 - 1 month
|
|I feel like since I am quit in person and have an inquisitive face
|people talk to me too much, monopolize my time and idk. I feel like
|there are more talkers out there.
|u/afakefox - 1 month
|
|Yea I was going to say that I personally have the opposite
|problem. I'm very introverted, even shy and the number one thing
|I hate talking about is myself. So I feel like no one ever really
|gets to know me so they don't care or have any impression of me
|at all even when I act very interested in them and ask questions
|or give advice if it's wanted. But people really don't seem to
|connect to you unless you let them in your life as well.
|u/superminh13 - 1 month
|
|I must admit, a lot of times I am waiting to talk but I'm trying to
|listen more.
|u/fuzzyeats - 1 month
|
|Perfectly said. And having agreed to that let me just say it's not
|necessarily because I want to 'talk about myself', it's because I'm
|animated by the conversation.
|u/Whatthefrick1 - 1 month
|
|It seriously hurts my feelings when people don’t understand this. I
|had a “friend” in high school that would just walk away in the middle
|of my sentence if she saw her other friends. Some guy behind me
|noticed and made a slight joke and I almost cried. She also had a
|habit of just going blank when I said something and then replying
|with something entirely different.
|u/CraftyAttitude1321 - 1 month
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|Not everything has to be filmed.
|u/Just_smack_em - 1 month
|
|Yeah a bunch of us had to tell my mom that during my brother's
|funeral earlier this year. We didn't want pictures of us grieving let
|alone being video taped.
|u/death_by_sushi - 1 month
|
|Oh man, my mom, too. Trying to take pictures of us, the food, the
|*casket,* like, really??
|u/Sugacookiemonsta - 1 month
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|Now that I don't agree with. I also hate to see photos of a
|deceased person in that open casket on Facebook. People make it
|their Facebook photo even!
|u/death_by_sushi - 1 month
|
|Oh god, just, no
|u/audiosauce2017 - 1 month
|
|Sadly this is where we are as a society... for real....
|sucks
|u/anon12xyz - 1 month
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|People did this before social media and smart phones tho. I
|really don’t get taking photos at funerals. Maybe a family
|pic cause you are never together, but still not a Kodak
|moment where anyone would be happy in the picture or
|smiling
|u/bouboucee - 1 month
|
|People do this? Why???? 
|u/detectiveswife - 1 month
|
|I think back in the day when they took post-mortem pictures
|it was because they didn't have any pictures of that person
|when they were alive. So it was the only photo they had. Not
|to mention photos were extremely expensive, kind of like how
|microwaves sold for thousands of dollars until everybody just
|had one and you can get one for around 100 bucks.
|u/FoxysDroppedBelly - 1 month
|
|Because it gets them tons of “Omg are you okay?” and sweet
|memories of the deceased. People are starved for compliments
|and nice comments so we’ll post anything that gets those.
|u/No_Personality_2Day - 1 month
|
|I took photos of my grandma saying goodbye to my grandpa in
|his casket. They lived in assisted living when he was
|diagnosed with COVID and she couldn’t visit him in the
|hospital (spring of 2020) and then he didn’t make it. She
|has those photos framed. I don’t know. To each their own.
|It did feel a bit uncomfortable in the moment while I was
|taking them but they mean a lot to her.
|u/meremaid2201 - 1 month
|
|Also people who suffer a stillbirth and post the pictures of
|them holding the baby on Facebook and Instagram. I completely
|understand wanting those pictures and wanting to preserve the
|memory of the child, but when they post photos of like the
|parents in the hospital bed cradling the deceased infant,
|there’s something about it that feels off to me. It’s an
|insanely private and heartbreaking moment that I personally
|wouldn’t want the world to see. That being said, no issue
|with posting like the tiny feet or footprints or hands etc
|because it still provides a public acknowledgement of memorial
|with a sense of privacy if that is what you want to do, it’s
|the full photo of the grieving family with the body of the
|stillborn baby as content on social media that gives me the
|ick.
|u/tracingovals - 1 month
|
|People used to take pictures of folks in caskets before
|smartphones too. I learned this when I used to develop film. 💀
|u/trash_babe - 1 month
|
|I wonder if it’s an Appalachian/Southern thing. My uncle and
|his wife who are from West Virginia asked us to take a picture
|of my grandma right after she died. I didn’t want to do it but
|my dad (also from West Virginia) did and also took a portrait
|of her in the casket for my his digital frame, which is a nice
|jump scare at Christmas when it pops up on rotation.
|u/Catwoman1948 - 1 month
|
|There are lots of photos from the 1800s and early 1900s to be
|found in museums and antique shops in the South that depict
|not only dead people, but dead children! So very sad, but
|infant and child mortality was very common then and they must
|have found the photos comforting. I find them macabre.
|u/Antique-Cap5527 - 1 month
|
|And photographs were so rare that the photo of the body
|could very well be the only photo of that child. I can
|understand the wish to remember their face even if, by
|standards of today, it's a tad macabre.
|u/akkanbaby - 1 month
|
|My dad loves a good funeral picture and shares them. He takes the
|casket and the corpse "for memory". Thank god earlier this year I
|was spared because I was being "to dramatic" about the sudden
|death of my young cousin
|u/Just_smack_em - 1 month
|
|My mom made sure she got pictures of my brother in the casket. I
|thought people stopped doing that decades ago. Lol. In my opinion
|there is no "too dramatic" over a sudden death. It hurts more.
|u/djb185 - 1 month
|
|It's wild to me someone needed to be told this. I've been going to
|funerals for 3 decades and never seen anyone's camera out.
|u/Appropriate_Tour_274 - 1 month
|
|Thank you! My SIL films (and photographs) every get-together,
|scanning the people and narrating: “Here we are at the big birthday
|party, and here’s Billy, and Timmy, and Sarah…” Like whoTF is going
|to watch that drivel?
|u/Fury161Houston - 1 month
|
|My friend has pics of himself as his wallpaper on his phone. I find
|that very unusual. Is that normal???
|u/Appropriate_Tour_274 - 1 month
|
|Maybe if there are others in the photo, but if he’s alone—that’s
|kind of sad.
|u/Fury161Houston - 1 month
|
|Nope, just him. And he adds new looks in different suits
|seasonally. I think it's a case of growing up poor and at 55
|renting a room in a house but has many degrees in a dying
|field. Yes, it is sad and I wonder why he can't see it.
|u/savorie - 1 month
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|It might make him feel good about himself
|u/goblinerrs - 1 month
|
|Could it be a way to combat dysmorphia? Are they all "good"
|photos or are some from different angles? I've heard of people
|working through their dysmorphia or body hatred through exposure.
|u/Fury161Houston - 1 month
|
|He was fat as a child. Now maintains a strict KETO!!! diet.
|Preaches about eating meat and getting his protein. I would say
|that there is body dysmorphia going on.
|u/beesandsids - 1 month
|
|I've heard of people doing this so that if they lose their phone
|in the bar it's easier to get back as someone is likely to pick
|it up and give it back to them as they recognise them from the
|photo.
|u/Foreign-Opening - 1 month
|
|I know at least 50 people who do that lol
|u/No_Dirt_7863 - 1 month
|
|My Lock Screen is a terrible picture of very fat me. I use it as
|a reminder while I am on my weight loss journey to not give up.
|u/Girlinyourphone - 1 month
|
|It's wonderful drivel to have when those people aren't around
|anymore. I use to not like taking pictures or having my picture
|taken and thought I preferred "being in the moment" but I've since
|lost quite a few people that were significant to me and I didn't
|have a single picture of us together. I'm now unashamed to take
|photos and videos everywhere. The difference being that the
|majority of it is posted in the group chat or the shared album and
|not on social media.
|u/FunnyMiss - 1 month
|
|I was just gonna say this. I’ve lost my parents and I wish I had
|more videos and pictures. When our little girl was born, we knew
|my FIL was dying. We sent him videos and pictures everyday. He
|sent his own back. After he passed away, we’ve let our daughter
|watch them. She laughs and knows that he’s her grandpa. And
|some people are just like that. Edit: Just got a message from an
|old high school friend. His parents both passed away in the last
|few years. Going though their house, they found a whole closet
|full of home videos!! They watched them and realized there’s
|several with me and my mom, she was a teacher, in them at school
|events. He wanted to know of Id like a copy after his brother
|digitizes them. Of course I said absolutely!! So that made my
|day.
|u/Lozzanger - 1 month
|
|When my house got robbed they took our video camera and the bag
|which had all our home videos in it. We had videos on my great
|grandmas, me and my cousins playing and everyone. I would
|give anything to have those videos back.
|u/cletusbob - 1 month
|
|I remember Spring Break of 1987,my mom had recently bought a
|video camera that we were not allowed to touch! And it snowed, in
|Texas! On Spring Break! Came home from school years later and my
|mom was watching that VCR tape Smiling
|u/Evil_Creamsicle - 1 month
|
|If you still have that tape, you should get it transferred to
|digital
|u/-Duckles-McFuckles- - 1 month
|
|Agreed, my dad took pictures and videos of absolutely
|*everything* when we were kids, and we always found it so
|irritating. However after my grandmother died, we were going
|through the thousands of pictures of her from over the years and
|realized that all of us were frequently photographed together,
|mostly candid shots, but my dad was almost never in them. He's
|still alive, so we thankfully have (hopefully) many more years
|with him, and we've been videotaping/photographing him with gusto
|to make up for it. However it doesn't really make up for all the
|pictures from my childhood, like on vacations and even just the
|mundane things like going to the park, that don't have any with
|my dad. He was obviously there but not seeing him there is kind
|of sad. We don't take a fraction of the pictures this maniac did
|but we now have a nice little collection going.
|u/Forikorder - 1 month
|
|> Like whoTF is going to watch that drivel? loved ones of
|billy/timmy/sarah after they've died and they want something to
|remember them with
|u/Typical_Seaweed5558 - 1 month
|
|My 9 year old daughter died last year 💔 a couple months after I
|found a bunch of videos she had made on my tablet. I never used
|the camera on that and really didn't use it much. I had no idea
|she had been using it. I'll cherish those silly videos of her
|playing forever ❤️
|u/Empty_Return_6516 - 1 month
|
|Exactly! Wait until someone you love passes away and you regret
|not filming more special moments.
|u/Purplecatty - 1 month
|
|Idk, my dad likes filming everything and because of that we’re able
|to look back on some good memories. Same with pics. I think people
|who like to record everything get a lot of hate but they really
|shouldn’t, its great being able to watch these moments back. Maybe
|people here are just grouches.
|u/Tumid_Butterfingers - 1 month
|
|I like filming my family so that we can enjoy watching old movies
|when some of us pass away. But I don’t put them online into
|social media. I think that’s what people (like myself) have a
|problem with. Keep me out of your fucking movies if you’re going
|to plaster it all over the internet.
|u/Coastbaby_ - 1 month
|
|For me I’m 50/50 on that. I feel like not everything has to be
|filmed/posted on socials. But on another hand I don’t mind it as
|much. Reason being, the older I’ve gotten the more people I’ve lost
|and I’m so grateful I decided to film a lot when said person and I
|were together.
|u/hergumbules - 1 month
|
|When I’m at an event I enjoy taking some pics and maybe a few short
|videos. They will pop up from time to time on my Google photos or
|camera roll and it lets me remember a good time!
|u/WeAreDestroyers - 1 month
|
|I take video and photos for myself, because I'll forget a lot of
|details really quickly. 95% don't get posted.
|u/Emergency-Twist7136 - 1 month
|
|I don't post any pictures or videos on social media. I also take
|them for the memories. (I don't have a visual memory, I have
|aphantasia, so I couldn't "just remember" even if I didn't also
|have post-concussion syndrome.) I didn't use to do it as much as I
|do since my son was born, but I genuinely do scroll through the
|pictures and videos pretty often. It helps cement the memories
|around the pictures, too.
|u/wildtech - 1 month
|
|Definitely not a new phenomenon. I volunteer for my local historical
|museum by digitizing donated 8mm film. It's amazing how much mundane
|stuff I have to sit through to get to something worth saving for the
|museum, but it's still a neat window into life 60-70 years ago. Even
|boring stuff becomes interesting eventually.
|u/Lazy-Parsnip-4216 - 1 month
|
|I do for the sake of memories because, well, people die...
|unexpectedly sometimes 😭. I like the idea of a semi-live timeline to
|go back to and smile about.
|u/Oil8524 - 1 month
|
|People congregating in doorways, particularly when there is plenty of
|non-doorway space available
|u/Dontlookimnaked - 1 month
|
|Not exactly the same but similarly I’m shocked at how awful people
|(in nyc of all places) are terrible about elevators and subways. Let
|people off before you get on, it’s not that fucking hard.
|u/MyDishwasherLasagna - 1 month
|
|I'll stand to the side as I wait for an elevator, because I know
|people will need to get off when the doors open. The process will
|go quicker if I'm not right in front of the doors as they open.
|But then some other person, or group of people, comes up, hits the
|already lit call button, and stands right in front of the doors.
|Like, did they not notice the button is already lit, and I'm there
|waiting? I don't stand by elevator doors as a hobby. And of
|course once the doors do open, they try to get in at the same time
|as people getting out. Every time. And once they're on, they stop
|right in front of the control buttons. I don't want to have to ask
|someone to press a floor button because they're blocking it. This
|was very common at my college. These people vote. These people made
|it through high school and passed their exams. We're fucked.
|u/Kayback2 - 1 month
|
|I was doing this during a fairly busy time and a sort of queue
|formed behind me. Just before lift arrives some bint walks up,
|pushes button and then positions her shopping cart in such a way
|she's cut us off so she can barge on. When I call her on it she
|responds with "there's enough space everyone will get on" . "If
|that's the case join the back of the queue and we'll all get on."
|That's the closest to an IRL And Then They All Clapped I've ever
|had.
|u/JerichoTina - 1 month
|
|People like this are so baffling to me. Like, do they not
|notice the lineup? What do they think everyone else is doing?
|They either have no awareness or they are completely entitled
|and rude.
|u/Kayback2 - 1 month
|
|I'd go with entitled and rude. She can't be that oblivious
|and not walk into signposts all the time.
|u/serpentinepad - 1 month
|
|Same as the baggage claim idiots who stand right up against the
|edge so no one can see their luggage.
|u/Annual_Stranger_7342 - 1 month
|
|This one drives me irrationally crazy. Ever since I went to
|Japan and saw their two-foot line painted around the carousel
|and watched as everyone politely waited behind it. People only
|stepped forward to retrieve their bag. So smart!
|u/ferocioustigercat - 1 month
|
|People who hit the already lit call button. They are up there
|with people who knock on locked bathroom doors.
|u/AmbitiousScratch463 - 1 month
|
|But you’re supposed to knock in case they didn’t lock the door.
|Are you implying people try the door and then knock afterward?
|u/Particular_Box_8185 - 1 month
|
|Ugh, that has always annoyed the hell out of me. Also, people
|who are already punching the close door button before you've
|even finished getting on the elevator. Both such rude, self-
|important behaviors.
|u/azuldelmar - 1 month
|
|This is one of my biggest pet peeves!! People wanting to get in
|will not get in faster, in fact it will take longer!! For
|everyone!!
|u/cloistered_around - 1 month
|
|Having conversations in the middle of the hallway. Go to one side or
|the other, why you gotta be smack dab in the middle?!
|u/Indocede - 1 month
|
|Same in the grocery store. Plenty of people can't seem to figure
|that if they need to look at the shelf, their cart can also be on
|the same side of the aisle they are standing.
|u/juju_plays - 1 month
|
|At this point in my life, I just walk through them. Sometimes with a
|really loud EXCUSE ME, as I push past. 😂
|u/Tired_dragon_16 - 1 month
|
|Me too, then they have the audacity to look at me like I'm the one
|being impolite
|u/KittyHawkWind - 1 month
|
|I hate that as well. I've learned to let rip a loud fart as I
|walk by, that way their looks are at least justified.
|u/UnluckyDucky666 - 1 month
|
|I walked past some guys at a show once, my little teddy bear
|backpack brushed one of them and he flipped out, screaming at me
|and whatnot. Almost got my ass beat because they stood in a doorway
|of a venue that they weren't even entering. People are fucking
|nuts, and I'm still gonna walk through them lol
|u/MidtownJunk - 1 month
|
|What about the people who just stop dead at the end of the
|escalator (usually to look at their phone)? I just barrel into
|them, their fault if I knock them over, but seriously? You could
|cause a pretty nasty accident you muppets!
|u/ResolveWonderful6251 - 1 month
|
|your username checks out
|u/Accurate-Reveal7176 - 1 month
|
|I had an boyfriend back in the day and we met his family at an art
|museum to do a tour and have a nice day out. When I met his family,
|they were all standing in the doorway of the museum and blocking the
|entrance completely. I politely ushered them into the main area and
|the entire visit, I had to keep herding them out of doorways. In
|hindsight, this was a very strong indicator of how he and his family
|viewed the world and I should have realized this was yet another sign
|of how self-absorbed and entitled he was. Should have broken up with
|him much much earlier.
|u/Spider-Ian - 1 month
|
|There was this one lady I worked with. She would stop and stand in
|the way just to call people rude who asked her to move. Doorways,
|end of stairs/escalators, narrow hallways, you name it and she would
|use it to be a pest. One day though, I was about 30 feet behind her
|and she went through a revolving door. As per usual, she had to stop
|after going through the door and waited for someone to bump into her
|so she could call them rude and yell at them. But today there was no
|one except the consequences of her own actions. The revolving door
|had enough momentum that it hit here square in the ass. She whipped
|around to yell at whoever hit her, but there was nobody. She saw me
|laughing, gave a harrumph and marched off to lunch.
|u/biscuitsorbullets - 1 month
|
|What a weirdo lol
|u/Dependent_Cricket - 1 month
|
|It’s a walkway not a talkway.
|u/InformalPenguinz - 1 month
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|Lack of social awareness.
|u/boxsterguy - 1 month
|
|Motherfuckers at work do this with bathroom doors!
|u/nonnareg - 1 month
|
|At around 9 our now 21 year old made a comment about one of his
|friends moms posting pictures of his friend and his brother in their
|underwear in a huge mud puddle (rural area). I had shown my son and
|he just simply said "I wonder if his mom asked if she could post that
|cause I don't think he'd like it". I was never a huge social media
|poster as I never understood the over sharing but when my son said
|that it made me think even more. We don't know what the future holds
|for these kids. Why do we get to post their life's timeline that is
|out there forever. After that comment from my son I never posted
|anything without asking. If I wanted to share a dance picture I would
|ask, if I wanted to post a homerun picture I would ask. Not long
|after I gave up FB and IG (the only two I used) cause although I was
|not posting I was contributing to the chaos by being active on it and
|really it did not bring me joy. Most of it is time wasting. I
|joined Reddit last year when diagnosed with an auto immune disease so
|I could learn from others experiences and I even restrict this use.
|But I wish people really would rethink sharing every booger their
|kids pick cause although it might be funny now their child might not
|think so if they had a say.
|u/mishyfishy135 - 1 month
|
|My mother shared so much. I hated walking around town and running
|into someone I knew just for them to tell me how they saw all of
|these pictures of me, many of which I didn’t even know were taken.
|It’s a massive violation of trust and privacy in a time of your
|life where that is very valued
|u/JustJake1985 - 1 month
|
|My mom: why don't you ever talk to people? Also my mom: tells
|everyone every minute detail of my life Also also my mom: why
|don't you ever tell me anything important anymore?
|u/nutellachicken4 - 1 month
|
|When i was finally allowed to have a Facebook account at about
|13, i found a picture of myself as a toddler, naked on a beach,
|picking sand out of my ass & making a strained face. Really funny
|picture except my vulva was clearly visible in it. My mom had
|posted when I was around 10, and I asked her to remove it, but
|she didn’t remove it until I was about 16 if I recall correctly.
|Like i know your FB is private but I don’t want all of the adults
|in my life, who are your FB friends, to know what my vulva looked
|like lol. It was such a breach of privacy and I felt so
|unconsidered, for years
|u/Juststfuuuuuuu - 1 month
|
|And there are people who also make social media accounts for their 10
|months old. It’s really popular in my country and it’s just😐.
|u/throwawayjodjoejfojs - 1 month
|
|Totally agree. The risks of sharing kids' lives online far outweigh
|any potential benefits. Privacy should be a top priority for their
|well-being.
|u/True-Passage-8131 - 1 month
|
|Posting children's faces on the internet in general, tbh.
|u/noBStodayplease - 1 month
|
|Face, name, age, school, and helpful list of favorite things to
|mention to get the child into the kidnappers car, all shared on
|socials.
|u/nihi1zer0 - 1 month
|
|Here is a photo of my son, his DOB, his school schedule, and a
|list of his greatest fears.
|u/Knyfe-Wrench - 1 month
|
|It's not just a phone thing. People stop in the middle of aisles at
|the grocery store, at the end of an escalator, in a doorway. You're
|not the only person that exists, move out of the way!
|u/KDinNS - 1 month
|
|Costco comes to mind where I live. People will stop in the middle
|of the entranceway to dig in the bottom of their bag for their
|card. As if they weren't asked for it when they came in last week.
|u/RianJohnsonIsAFool - 1 month
|
|I really don't understand this behaviour. If I need to look at my
|phone or stop for any other reason, I will "park" by moving out of
|the flow of fellow pedestrians and finding somewhere out of the way.
|Same with shopping with a trolley. If I need to stop to pick
|something up, I'll move to the side of the aisle; I won't push or
|pull the trolley at an angle or otherwise make it difficult for other
|customers to do their shopping. Seems like a no-brainer in either
|situation and common courtesy yet so many people fail to do it.
|u/potatonou - 1 month
|
|A lot of my friends are just learning how to shop for groceries so
|I'm constantly having to pull their carts against the sides of the
|aisles cause they don't know that's what you're supposed to do.
|Thankfully it's gotten better cause a lot of them have picked up on
|it, but it's weird to think that people don't know to do that
|u/TheApathetic - 1 month
|
|As someone works in a grocery store, it's surprising how many
|people don't understand this simple concept. Even grown adults
|and older people. If you have a driving license, you should
|understand how to navigate traffic. It's literally the same
|thing, but with carts instead of cars. One letter difference,
|same principle.
|u/rubiscoisrad - 1 month
|
|Exactly what I was thinking. I don't stop my car in the middle
|of the roadway because I got a message or need to look
|something up - I'd get rear ended! The simple thing is to pull
|over (which totally applies to shopping carts) and deal with my
|crap on my time, not everyone else's.
|u/Whole_Craft_1106 - 1 month
|
|People actually drive the same way, like they are the only ones
|on the road.
|u/cupholdery - 1 month
|
|>A lot of my friends are just learning how to shop for groceries
|You mean learning the same way you learn to drive a car? Like,
|needing instructions and everything? Lol EDIT: I understand
|different upbringing and missing out on some things, but it's
|surprising that people need to learn not to block others lol.
|Maybe that's just inconsiderateness.
|u/Askduds - 1 month
|
|At the top of a busy escalator is always my favourite.
|u/AliciaKills - 1 month
|
|Or right when you walk into a store.
|u/No-Understanding-912 - 1 month
|
|Yep, like right in the doorway where you have to force your way
|around them.
|u/Y0L4ND4 - 1 month
|
|Granted it doesn’t happen too often but when it does I will every
|time just walk into them. I don’t care. If I encounter an elderly
|person or a small child doing this one day I plan to push past them
|so they don’t risk falling but still with physical albeit careful
|contact. I will fight and people can tell. I’ve had I think two
|people who reacted aggressively at first. One quickly apologised
|and the other got laughed at by her friends saying it’s her own
|fault. I don’t ever go out looking for trouble but I’m just done
|with people acting dumb and expecting me to go out of my way to
|accommodate them.
|u/throwawayjodjoejfojs - 1 month
|
|Absolutely! It’s like everyone’s in their own little bubble,
|oblivious to the chaos around them.
|u/rotatingruhnama - 1 month
|
|My kid will randomly grind to a halt in doorways or whatever,
|because, well, kids are like that. But I shuffle her along.
|Sometimes people pause and need some grace - like they're a
|child/older/disabled, or they're wrangling someone who is a
|child/older/disabled. But randomly stopping to peck at your phone
|is annoying. I'm already constantly tripping over my 5 yo, I don't
|need to trip over a 26 yo who wants to check on a sports team.
|u/ImpossibleCoyote937 - 1 month
|
|I'm a little older, disabled, and walk slow with a cane. There's
|apparently no shame in them. I've been run into. Knocked down, and
|they kept going. Brushed back so they can get to where they want to
|be.
|u/Qix213 - 1 month
|
|I get a strange enjoyment out of 'accidently' running into these
|kinds of people. People so self absorbed that it doesn't even occur
|to them that other people actually exist. Because almost always they
|apologize and move over afterwards. They aren't doing it on purpose.
|They are just that far down into their own little world, and at far
|up their own ass at the same time, that they forget other people
|exist.
|u/This-Requirement6918 - 1 month
|
|Sir/mam this is an online game. There might be a menu but the game
|doesn't stop for the rest of us!
|u/SecretProgramor - 1 month
|
|Kids blasting whatever TV show on their iPads in the middle of a
|restaurant while I’m trying to eat. The kids can watch whatever but
|somebody teach them to use headphones.
|u/KampieStarz - 1 month
|
|Grown adults on the bus playing annoying games. Like can I get a
|moment of silence please?
|u/FLSteve11 - 1 month
|
|I was in a doctors waiting area yesterday and an adult guy was
|streaming a tv show on his phone loudly.
|u/lottieslady - 1 month
|
|I was also in the dr waiting room with a woman blaring her game
|across the large room. I had a terrible migraine and the blast
|and boom sounds from that iPad were awful. It’s like these people
|don’t realize that sick and old people are at the dr.
|u/cupholdery - 1 month
|
|I'll never understand why they don't use earphones. Everything
|from the game sounds better with them on anyway.
|u/lottieslady - 1 month
|
|It’s a mystery to me as well. I just don’t understand it. But
|I think people like that have no social awareness and/or
|truly don’t care about how their behavior might affect
|others.
|u/ofthenightfall - 1 month
|
|“Phones don’t have headphone jacks anymore” you can buy
|cheap wireless earbuds for like $15. If you can afford the
|latest iPhone you can afford that too. And if you can’t
|then just like/save the video so you can watch it later at
|home or AT LEAST at a low volume so only you can hear it.
|Why is it always on full blast? Even phone games. You do
|not need sound to play candy crush.
|u/TheDogDad1000 - 1 month
|
|I once told a lady off for being on a video call in the
|doctor's waiting room... I told her "I have a terrible
|migraine - could you please shut the hell up ?!" :-D
|u/Jimbo_The_Prince - 1 month
|
|oh man, public calls are just that, **public**, I **am**
|gonna get involved in it, that's why you're having your convo
|on speaker in the bus, right, so we can all get involved?
|u/Joetaska1 - 1 month
|
|Yeah if someone is talking on the speakerphone in public I
|like to say something like it's their turn to pay the
|stripper or ask them how much cocaine do they want.
|u/Weddit2025 - 1 month
|
|Was in a waiting room with maybe 5 other people and all of a
|sudden we hear really loud, porny moaning and smacking sounds
|coming from this one dudes phone... He turned it down quickly
|but why the hell are you trying to watch porn in a public
|waiting room. 
|u/OEMichael - 1 month
|
|I find a respectful "Pardon me, would you mind turning down the
|volume?" generally works in public places. Less respectful
|approaches almost always work, but I'm on the bigger side.
|u/Icy_Machine_595 - 1 month
|
|Or when they’re scrolling TikTok with the volume up. When they
|watch the same one a few times in a row, the repeated sound gets to
|me and I have visions of breaking their phones with their face.
|u/Inside_Instance8962 - 1 month
|
|Times like this Im thankful my local bus has a "devices must be on
|silent mode" rule. When people break that rule, that are forced
|off. Blessing in disguise cause I never considered people would
|play it at like max volume or something.
|u/526381cat - 1 month
|
|Not only kids! Adults taking calls on speaker on the bus, watching
|videos with sound in public, etc.
|u/BalladOfAntiSocial - 1 month
|
|My uncle’s kids do this. I try and avoid eating at restaurants or out
|and about with them because it makes me feel uncomfortable. They’re
|lovely people, but the common sense is lacking in some areas
|u/Electric-Sheepskin - 1 month
|
|And not only is that rude, but parents who do that regularly are
|doing their kids a real disservice. I know sometimes you just need to
|have a quiet meal and turn the kids off, but they need to learn to
|regulate their emotions and deal with boredom. These kids are growing
|up not knowing how to act or even just exist in the world.
|u/C19shadow - 1 month
|
|Something I worked with my god son alot, he'd tell me he's bored
|and I'd tell him that's okay. And he'd occupy himself just fine.
|u/Miserable547 - 1 month
|
|I can’t believe how often I have to face this!
|u/manhattansinks - 1 month
|
|seriously, what happened to kids bringing colouring and sticker books
|to restaurants? back in the stone ages when i was a kid, my mom
|always brought something to occupy my time.
|u/idiot206 - 1 month
|
|I brought my gameboy absolutely everywhere but my parents drew the
|line at playing at the table. When you’re at dinner, you sit and
|act like a decent human for 30-45 mins of your day.
|u/ComprehensiveRip3122 - 1 month
|
|I personally see no difference between crayons and a gameboy,
|assuming you manage the sound,. But, yeah, I believe in the whole
|“sit there and have a good time, you’ll be fine.” My nephews and
|nieces once decided to sit in the car at a family BBQ because
|they didn’t want to participate. Get your asses in this house.
|Sit. Pout. Game. Do whatever, but we are not allowing this
|behavior. They are teenagers and their parents don’t believe in
|standards for behavior.
|u/4squaretires - 1 month
|
|>they didn’t want to participate. Get your asses in this house.
|Sit. Pout. Game. Do whatever, This reminds me of being a kid
|and pouting because I was being a kid and not wanting to do
|whatever at whoever's house that day. But you better BELIEVE
|there was that one family member (usually a grandma or an aunty
|I didn't see often) who I DID NOT be a brat around lmao. My mom
|gritting her teeth with a finger in my face: you are NOT gonna
|have an attitude, do you hear me? You will say please and thank
|you and you will sit next to her at the table!!!! LMFAO
|u/beesandsids - 1 month
|
|Filming strangers. It's one thing if you're just taking a holiday snap
|or something and there's people in the background but actually pointing
|your camera at strangers without consent solely for the purpose of
|making videos of them to post online is not cool. I get it's legal to
|do so in most public places.
|u/trustmeimalinguist - 1 month
|
|It’s illegal to do this in Germany :) I’m from the U.S. but have
|lived in Germany for 6 years. It was interesting to learn about the
|attitude around right to privacy here.
|u/prailock - 1 month
|
|IIRC Germany is one of the few places in the world to have Right to
|be Forgotten laws as well. You can have yourself delisted from
|shitty searches after an appropriate length of time. Something that
|should be far more widespread.
|u/BabySuperfreak - 1 month
|
|A lot of people have developed a really glib attitude about putting
|their every thought and movement on the internet. When someone tries
|to have boundaries about it, they either think it's weird or "it's
|too late so who cares?"
|u/Birdlord420 - 1 month
|
|Once I was pumping (breastmilk) in a pumping bra and cardigan while
|driving and a car load of teenagers stopped next to me at a red
|light. They pulled their phones out and started recording me. While
|I’m desperately trying to close my cardigan without spilling milk
|everywhere they rolled down the window and yelled out “HAHA GROSS
|THIS IS GOING ON TIKTOK” then sped off. I don’t think I’ve ever
|*wished* to see a car crash more in my life. Don’t fuckin film
|strangers.
|u/beesandsids - 1 month
|
|Omg that's horrendous. I'm so sorry that happened to you. Suddenly
|feeling blessed that social media didn't really take off until my
|kids were older than that 😳
|u/Xavius20 - 1 month
|
|That's absolutely disgusting behaviour. I'm sure you don't need an
|internet strangers validation, but just in case, it's not gross
|(but they are) and they're a bunch of wankers with nothing better
|to do. I'm sorry that happened to you, I can't even begin to
|understand the people that do shit like that.
|u/kealoha - 1 month
|
|I don't know if straight guys do this with women, but I have gay
|friends who post pics of "hot strangers" in public to their close
|friends. It feels so gross to me, especially because I know these
|close friends lists aren't very exclusive and are being sent out to
|hundreds of people at least.
|u/beesandsids - 1 month
|
|Oh no! That's not cool at all, you're right to feel grossed out.
|u/Born_Inspector6265 - 1 month
|
|I tell people not to do it and they try to shame me for “not being a
|good sport” and think they’re totally in the right. No bitch, I don’t
|want someone who hasn’t so much as said hello to me start sticking
|their camera in my face as if we’re besties. Rude and hella entitled
|u/Fickle-Secretary681 - 1 month
|
|Filming people or animals that need help makes me fly into a rage
|u/Queef_Muscle - 1 month
|
|This reminds me of that "influencer" who's dancing when she gets her
|pancakes and there is a girl in the background giving her a look.
|They went for that poor girl giving the look. I'm pretty sure she
|didn't want to be in that "influencer" video.
|u/silly_skirt - 1 month
|
|I was filmed just last week. I went to a brewery to meet some friends
|and the place is kid friendly. When I walk in I see a \~3 year old
|girl doing the Hulk stance and looking right at me. So, I did it,
|too. We pretty much became best friends. As we are having our Hulk
|stand-off, her Mom takes out her phone. I am sure she was just
|filming her child, but the phone was pointed directly at me a few
|times. It felt so strange. When my new bestie and I start discussing
|the intricacies of Paw Patrol and how Skye is GOAT, her Mom is still
|snapping pictures. It was just odd. Why not let your kid enjoy their
|time and not have to film it all? And I am a complete stranger! Why
|are you getting me in the picture at all?
|u/SeaRespond9836 - 1 month
|
|And the justification of "it's legal!" is annoying too.
|u/juju_plays - 1 month
|
|I hate this. I live in a touristy city known for unique everything.
|When I had green hair or whenever I'm dressed up now, I catch people
|taking pictures or filming me. I wouldn't mind if someone asked, then
|I could say yes or no depending on my mood. But they don't ever ask.
|u/dingle_doppler - 1 month
|
|Posting pics of other people's children, even if a family member. Not
|your place to post, that's up to the parents. Stop it!
|u/True-Passage-8131 - 1 month
|
|Taking up as much space as physically possible for no reason. Move your
|f*cking ass!
|u/Seventh7Sun - 1 month
|
|I went to an outdoor concert and got there early to get up front.
|There was this group (family I assume) that ran up to the rail and
|each spread their legs and arms (hands in a deathgrip on the rail) as
|far apart as possible to take up the maximum amount of the rail as
|they could. They just stood there like that the entire concert, it
|was so weird. Like they just didn't want people to get as close as
|they were.
|u/True-Passage-8131 - 1 month
|
|Well, that's just peak shitty behavior. I was more talking about
|people who are so unaware of where they are that they'll just stand
|in the middle of a walkway like a confused toddler and won't scoot
|themselves off to the side for people to get by when needed. For a
|second, it's fine, but parking your shopping cart horizontally in
|the aisle to check your grocery list just isn't cool.
|u/SilverellaUK - 1 month
|
|Must shout out here to the huge biker who saw my daughter being
|pushed and put her in front of him while he stood like a statue
|behind her (without touching her) with his hands on the rail.
|u/JeanRalfio - 1 month
|
|I go to a lot of concerts and there's always one dumbass that
|doesn't understand crowd etiquette. Recently was behind a girl that
|kept whipping her hair in my face and trying to create the largest
|bubble of space around her. Had another guy that kept jumping up
|into and basically grinding on me and some other guy who also
|looked annoyed. He had plenty of space to jump in his own bubble
|without touching us but nope. Go in the mosh pit if you want to do
|that shit. The last show I went to had a mosh pit break out every
|song which is fine but the people in the pit had no regard for
|people outside the pit and would just launch themselves as far as
|they could outside of it. I was like 4 people away from the pit and
|they launched so far into some poor girl that was next to me and
|she went flying into the ground. I wanted to catch her but had a
|phone in one and and a drink in the other and didn't want to spill
|all over her. I was still able to help her up pretty quickly.
|Finally after like 5 songs security came over to control the pit
|barrier and threw out a couple people that couldn't control
|themselves.
|u/HeathenHumanist - 1 month
|
|I was at a crowded show recently where a girl with a massive
|ponytail kept headbanging HARD, flinging her hair all over the
|place, whipping the faces of everyone around her. Finally I
|accidentally got my hand caught in her hair when it whipped
|against my face again. Well, kinda accidentally. I'd put my hand
|up to protect my face, and kinda curled my fingers in a way that
|I knew might snag on her hair, to hopefully get her attention.
|Her hair snagged, tugged a bit (I didn't grab, just let her
|tangled ponytail snag and then it immediately slipped off my
|fingers when she whipped her hair back), and she turned to glare
|at me. I glared right back, hand still up protectively by my
|face, and yelled over the music "You're hitting everyone with
|your hair!!" She glared again but stopped. 10 minutes later I'd
|finally moved further up in the crowd, but when I looked back she
|was fucking doing it AGAIN. Everyone around was flinching away
|from her as they got smacked repeatedly by her long hair. Just so
|fucking annoying and selfish.
|u/p0ndfaerie - 1 month
|
|Being expected to be constantly available via social media chat, text,
|call at any & all hours. If you try to ‘opt out’ it’s seen as weird or
|antisocial.
|u/KoreyYrvaI - 1 month
|
|I'm old™ but when I was a kid it was a special treat for us kids to
|receive a phone call from grandma. A thing that happened maybe a
|couple times a year. We visited grandma more than she called on the
|phone. My mom will get bitter and guilt trippy if my son doesn't
|answer her text message inside of an hour.
|u/GraciesMomGoingOn83 - 1 month
|
|I used to write letters to my grandma who lived three hours away.
|I realize now it's because sending a letter was far cheaper than
|making a long-distance phone call.
|u/manyhippofarts - 1 month
|
|I have a very effective plan that I've had in place for a while.
|Here it is. I answer/respond to text messages whenever it's
|convenient to me, and also only when I feel like it. I never say
|I'm sorry, in fact I never even mention that it's been an
|hour/half a day/the next day. I act as if my response was
|delivered normally within the expected time frame. Because it
|was.
|u/alternativepuffin - 1 month
|
|Between work and my cell phone, if you count all direct emails,
|chat messages, and texts I receive on a daily basis, it
|averages around 80. With group text messages and group emails,
|it's closer to 170. I know this because I took a week and
|measured it because I wanted to prove to myself that it wasn't
|in my head and it really was way too much. So no I didn't
|respond to that text message, but for many people that text was
|25-50% of your digital communication for the day, and it was
|less than 1 percent of mine.
|u/PurpleCow88 - 1 month
|
|Yeah everyone in my life knows I'm a "bad texter" and is just
|used to it by now.
|u/AggravatingCupcake0 - 1 month
|
|My father has always looked down on me for not having as good of a
|career as him, but gets angry if I don't respond to a text within 5
|mins that he sent at 2:30pm on a Tuesday. He will literally send
|"Hellooo, Earth to (AggravatingCupcake0), what are you doing?
|Ignoring Dad's messages I see 🙄" Just because you don't consider
|what I do work, doesn't mean I'm NOT WORKING.
|u/nilarips - 1 month
|
|Came here to say this. I’m burnt out of being readily available to
|people and basically just ignore everyone now.
|u/depressedgobi - 1 month
|
|Tired of how this is mostly exploited by work or your office and
|you are expected to immediately drop everything and respond. These
|workplaces like to believe that with a meager salary they've bought
|you for all hours.
|u/Glazin - 1 month
|
|My boss will ask if I read the email he sent last night. My
|response is always, no I havnt stepped into my office yet so I
|havnt checked my emails yet today 🤷‍♀️
|u/depressedgobi - 1 month
|
|And then they're offended if your reply is anything of that
|variety
|u/EveryGoodNameIsGone - 1 month
|
|This is exactly why I refuse to go through the process of
|getting my work email added to my phone.
|u/gilliansgerbaras - 1 month
|
|This! They ask me to reply as soon as I can. I haven't clocked
|in for the day - leave me alone!
|u/Foragologist - 1 month
|
|Setting expectations is a lost art. 
|u/The_Chosen_Unbread - 1 month
|
|It made being a stripper so much more annoying. Men would not let
|up on getting at first emails and then quickly cellphone numbers.
|The expectation for the girls to be available to them, whether or
|not they had even spent money yet, was like 80% of guys. They
|would use "no" as one of the ways to bully the girls until one
|finally did and all for a measly $60 most of the time. You cant
|even say "I can't give you my number" because other girls do. If
|you say it for safety then you ruin the fantasy and a lot of men
|take that personally. I almost bought a burner but I thought that
|doesn't make me any better off pr less miserable and makes me
|part of the problem. And tlyou can't give a fake number because
|thanks to cell phones they will call you on the spot. Men can
|really fucking suck in those environments. And for a single
|dollar tip on stage they still expect the same amount of work.
|u/Ezira - 1 month
|
|I just noted last night that it's probably not healthy for me to
|instantly get job rejection emails while eating breakfast and
|dinner every day. I got an online notification that my doctor
|quit during the eclipse in April. I miss being able to separate
|tasks. I can't even avoid the news because my phone automatically
|pushes articles.
|u/PushTheTrigger - 1 month
|
|That’s why I disabled notifications for almost all my apps except
|a select few.
|u/KitchenWitch021 - 1 month
|
|I did also, the weather one does it’s own thing but maybe 3
|times a day. I’ll check email and all the other shit when I’m
|good n ready. I can’t take all the dings and icons lining up.
|u/Ezira - 1 month
|
|I'm laughing at myself because I just got the notification for
|this message in the middle of folding laundry
|u/floydbomb - 1 month
|
|Ill second what the other guy said. I basically have no
|notifications turned on throughout my apps. Standard phone
|text messages and that's it. As far as Reddit, email, etc I
|just check at most a couple times a day to see if anything
|noteworthy was received. Lifes much better not being tied to
|your phone like a ball and chain
|u/Bixuxi - 1 month
|
|Echo chamber here: I also disabled my notifications. I
|think I have one game where I do actively get a
|notification from, but past that, people have been more
|bitter and threatening lately so better for my mental
|health to not be exposed to it. I had so many
|notifications on my last account I refused to open from the
|anxiety of how aggressive people seem. I'm doing much
|better being ignorant and bliss.
|u/the_river_erinin - 1 month
|
|We use WhatsApp in my country, and literally every person I know has
|20+ unread chats because they’ve all given up on being constantly
|available. It’s freeing, just ignore what doesn’t need to be
|attended to immediately
|u/HelloImTheAntiChrist - 1 month
|
|I avoid apps that tell people if I've read their messages or not.
|Like I don't want anyone to know if I'm near my phone or not. If
|they have a problem with it they can kindly fuck all the way off
|u/rando_mike - 1 month
|
|I turned off notifications on a Google group chat that my friends are
|a part of because it was impossible to focus for work. They all make
|comments “I guess Mike is too busy for us”. Yep, just trying to make
|a living, no big deal.
|u/USAF6F171 - 1 month
|
|"I guess Mike has a life. But the rest of us still suck, amirite?"
|u/rando_mike - 1 month
|
|No no, I have a job. No one said anything about having a life. 🤣
|u/TheRedMaiden - 1 month
|
|Uggggh, esp when someone posts in a group chat and the other eight
|people all respond, resulting in my phone pinging a bunch of times
|within a couple minutes.
|u/CountCattitude - 1 month
|
|Oh hell yes. I had to explain to my MIL that my phone is for *my*
|convenience, not for her to call me whenever she wants me to make SO
|pick up her 5+ calls a day and get hissy when I'm not available to
|play secretary. Her reaction was to cry and throw Tupperware across
|the kitchen.
|u/FuzzyNegotiation24-7 - 1 month
|
|Good lord. I’m sorry you have that kind of mother in law
|u/CountCattitude - 1 month
|
|Yeah it's a coin toss with her. She is very helpful, loving, she
|only wants the best for everyone, but her own mother was
|extremely anxious, controlling and had no concept of boundaries,
|which of course shaped her, and not exactly positively.
|u/pretty-late-machine - 1 month
|
|Or how it's a "red flag" to not have or use social media. Some of us
|just don't want that as a hobby lol
|u/NoodleyP - 1 month
|
|“Ok, I’ll text her about it” “No don’t! She might be sleeping or
|unavailable!” “The beauty of texting is sending one when convenient
|for me and the person can respond when next convenient for them”
|Actual conversation between me and my cousin,
|u/VB_Creampie - 1 month
|
|A couple years ago I turned my phone to silent all the time and
|turned on DND automatically after 6:30pm to 7:00am save a couple of
|tagged contacts that are allowed through DND. I have no FB, insta
|etc. What prompted me do that was something a manager at my previous
|job said to me  "The mobile phone is a convenience, not an
|obligation." And I've treated it as such since. 
|u/Various-Cell593 - 1 month
|
|I have become intentionally unreliable so it’s expected by everyone
|around me that I don’t respond quickly to stuff. 
|u/Sorry-Necessary-5042 - 1 month
|
|Seriously, I hate small talk. Which is why I picked a field to work
|in that requires minimal social interaction. Even then, co workers
|expect to make small talk. I’m just here to do my work and go home.
|lol. SMH
|u/ilovefortnite5 - 1 month
|
|YES!!!! People have gotten genuinely upset with me because I don’t
|respond to texts immediately it’s insane to me
|u/thefamousjohnny - 1 month
|
|People find it weird if you do it all of a sudden. My friends and
|family are used to it. I live alone and have cultivated a good bit
|of free time. If I didn’t have boundaries I’d have to jump and do
|something every time my phone buzzes. I selected 1 time per day to
|respond to messages. Sometimes it’s every second day. In general
|life isn’t urgent. Enjoy your now
|u/moreofajordan - 1 month
|
|I’m just dealing with dating apps for the first time (as an elder
|millennial) and am shocked that if you don’t reply to a message in
|the app for a couple of days, it’s a dead end. You, sir, are a
|stranger right now—you have to work your way up to immediate reply! 
|Plus, if we got together, wouldn’t it be a *good* thing that I don’t
|let every *ding* from my phone distract me?
|u/83franks - 1 month
|
|I've trained everyone I know to not expect this. Hasn't caused me any
|issues in the long run.
|u/Electric-Sheepskin - 1 month
|
|Yes! Most of the time, I'll just glance at the notification to see
|if it seems urgent, and sometimes I'll respond immediately, but
|usually I wait a while to respond, on purpose. I don't want anyone
|to ever expect me to be immediately available. I don't know if
|it's contagious, or if it's just my friend group, but it seems like
|more people are like that now. And if I'm at a social event with
|people, I don't ever look at my phone. Y'all, that's just rude. Put
|your phones away and enjoy life.
|u/avocado-v2 - 1 month
|
|Playing shitty music on their phone speakers. Headphones. Use them.
|u/matande31 - 1 month
|
|I'll do you one better. Playing Tiktok/Instagram videos on their
|phone speakers. SO. FUCKING. ANNOYING.
|u/Bending-Unit5 - 1 month
|
|Haha I’ve only done this a few times, but on flights when the
|person next to me does this I’ll aggressively lean over to look at
|their phone and when they give me the what the fuck look, I tell
|them “if you’re going to make me listen then at least let me
|watch”. At which point they get the hint and turn it off :)
|u/matande31 - 1 month
|
|>“if you’re going to make me listen then at least let me watch”
|Also applies when your roommate is having very loud sex.
|u/Simple_Salt4779 - 1 month
|
|Im in!
|u/matande31 - 1 month
|
|That's what your roommate said.
|u/Next-Firefighter-753 - 1 month
|
|“OH NO OH NO OHNONONONO”
|u/This-Requirement6918 - 1 month
|
|JESUS FUCKING CHRIST I wish people would stop using that dumb
|shit already.
|u/MisterHotrod - 1 month
|
|I don't get the reference, and I'm guessing that I should be glad
|that I don't.
|u/Next-Firefighter-753 - 1 month
|
|Someone continued the trend of butchering otherwise good parts
|of songs by giving them Alvin and the Chipmunk voices on TikTok
|and it somehow stuck 
|u/Jolly-Mortgage-5158 - 1 month
|
|I'll do you one better (at least try), Shooting Tiktoks and
|Instagram Reels in public places. Whenever I see those people
|recording dances or other things, I find it funny and stupid.
|u/brit_brat915 - 1 month
|
|I saw this at the park once and was like "wtf" it was 2 very
|much grown women, they had the trunk of the car open and was
|running back and forth from the car to maybe 30-ish-feet
|back...and just doing it over and over again. I watched for
|longer than I prob should have...but it turns out, they had some
|kind of tripod set up at the trunk of the car and was just making
|a *something* I mean, I guess it's really whatever...they
|weren't doing anything "bad", their gestures were harmless and
|tasteful...but they were in a super public spot and I know I
|wasn't the only one there watching!
|u/justreadingthat - 1 month
|
|Nobody accepts that, they just endure it because any asshole willing
|to do that is not going to listen to someone asking them to stop
|anyway.
|u/AspiringMusicNerd - 1 month
|
|yeah I’m pretty sure most people find this annoying
|u/Hot_Potential_5732 - 1 month
|
|Being on your phone while having an in person conversation with
|someone. Like hello, I’m right here not in your screen!
|u/Only-Target-7489 - 1 month
|
|My friend does this a lot. She’ll send me a whole story book on the
|phone in LONG paragraphs, but as soon as we are in public together,
|you can forget I was even there!
|u/Dependent_Cricket - 1 month
|
|And they like to say they treat texts as a “messaging board” that
|they can respond to whenever *they* want/feel like but will be
|‘unavailable’ when you’re in person because suddenly they have time
|to respond to everyone.
|u/JulianMcC - 1 month
|
|Have you tried getting up and leaving? Silently would be funny.
|u/Tiny-Cockroach-5009 - 1 month
|
|ugh my foster family are the exact same, especially their kids.
|they also ALWAYS watch tiktok while eating and chewing loudly with
|their mouth open, they look so brain-dead while doing that
|u/RedBarnGuy - 1 month
|
|If I’m with somebody in person, and we are having an intentional
|conversation and they keep getting distracted by their phone (a new
|text, Snap, whatever) I will just call them. Even though I am
|standing right next to them or across the table from them. I do it
|in a friendly manner and it always gets the point across.
|u/omgitskells - 1 month
|
|I stopped hanging out with a lot of people when I came to the
|realization that I was talking at them while they looked at their
|phones the whole time. I'm not going to waste my time if you don't
|actually want to, y'know, hang out with me.
|u/EpilepticDawg241 - 1 month
|
|I was standing in line at a fast food place. The person in front of
|me was having a loud conversation on the phone. When it was the
|person on the phones next turn in line, the cashier motioned for me
|to be next, skipping the lady in front of me. Before the lady on the
|phone could say anything, the cashier says, "You are busy, we'll take
|your order when you're ready." I almost started slow clapping.
|u/Worried_Birthday_734 - 1 month
|
|Agreed. I also have a friend who will go one further and put their
|earbuds in when we're hanging out.
|u/ominously-optimistic - 1 month
|
|I just stop talking if they start texting.
|u/LinkleLinkle - 1 month
|
|"No, no, keep talking, I'm still paying attention" they always say
|before missing every last syllable you're about to say. I
|personally don't mind if people have to respond to a text message
|here or there but I wish people wouldn't pressure you to keep
|talking when they're not focused on you. The human brain doesn't
|work like that. If you're focused on typing out a text message your
|brain *will* drown out whatever I'm saying no matter how good you
|think you are at multitasking. Please don't make me out to be the
|jerk because I'm waiting for your focus to be back on me.
|u/Prof_Sassafras - 1 month
|
|Throwing cigarettes butts on the ground. Lots of people complain about
|smoking, fairly, but I like a cigarette occasionally and don't mind the
|smell. However, it is infuriating and disgusting that everyone I know
|and see will just toss their garbage on the ground.
|u/WorldTravelerKevin - 1 month
|
|Trash is trash. I am with you. I am a daily smoker. I will empty my
|pockets of cigarette butts if there was no trash can when I smoked.
|It’s gross AF, but it’s my trash, not everyone else’s problem.
|u/Liathan - 1 month
|
|I just carry around an old empty mint container so I don’t get the
|ash and butt in my actual pocket.
|u/Thatsjustmyfaceok - 1 month
|
|I use an old mini handcream container for my cigarette butts. I
|might be a degenerate smoker, but I will never be a litterbug!
|u/ApplianceHealer - 1 month
|
|Apparently folding pocket “ashtrays” are an option too. TIL
|u/FKA-Scrambled-Leggs - 1 month
|
|Same - I still smoke, but I have rules. I will not smoke where non-
|smokers are present; if someone happens to walk past me after I’ve
|already snuck around the building to be clear of foot traffic, I’ll
|hold my cigarette down and will not take a drag until they’re gone.
|I’ll never stub my butt on the ground and leave it; I’ll flick the
|remainder out, stomp it, and dispose of the butt in a trash can, or
|carry it with me until I can find one. Finally, even though I know I
|can’t totally eradicate the smell, I’m absolutely going to wash my
|hands, pop a piece of gum, and utilize some non-offensive lotion so I
|don’t completely reek.
|u/rab7x - 1 month
|
|I used to be guilty of this! I always assumed filters were cotton, or
|made of something that degrades quickly since everyone tosses
|cigarette butts everywhere. It still doesn't make it okay, I know
|that now, but I feel like a majority of people who smoke don't know
|how long a cigarette butt lasts. Nowadays it's spent vapes all over
|the ground. I've started bringing a 5gal bucket in my car so my
|coworkers and myself can save used vapes and bring them in to
|recycle. It's not perfect, but it's something.
|u/TheYarnGoblin - 1 month
|
|They are the most littered item in the world. It’s nasty.
|u/GammaDoomO - 1 month
|
|At work, if someone leaves early no one bats an eye, but if you’re just
|a few minutes late you can get in hot water. Just one of those
|interesting societal norms I noticed
|u/Heavenly_Nostrils8 - 1 month
|
|THISSSS!!!! I have a coworker who cleared it with his boss to work
|from 10-7 to better accommodate his schedule. Some other employees
|complained so much that he was getting in “late,” even after being
|told about his schedule. A different manager even complained about it
|“jokingly” to the CEO. I’m sorry, do YOU want to work until 7pm each
|night?? Also, he works hard and well, and you are incompetent. Mind
|your own business. (People in the workplace should pay more attention
|to how well you do at your job than the exact minute to arrive. We
|have a culture of extreme punctuality in my opinion, to the extend
|that it is often valued above everything else)
|u/CatherineConstance - 1 month
|
|Yeah, I know this would never work in practice, but in theory I
|really wish that most jobs were not based on hours (some obv have
|to be for stuff that needs to be staffed all the time) but instead
|on amount of work. So like for most office jobs it would be "we are
|hiring you to do X, Y, and Z each day. Usually, X, Y, and Z takes
|about an 8 hour work day, but if you can get it done faster feel
|free to leave. If it takes you longer than 8 hours, you may have to
|stay late that day." This would never work because jobs would just
|give people way too much work and then we'd be back to cutting the
|day down to 8 hours because of labor laws, but it's stupid because
|98% of regular 8/9-5 jobs do NOT need an 8 hour day. At my job, I
|have specific tasks I have to get done each day. They do not take 8
|hours. But of course, I don't usually tell people I'm fully caught
|up because then I would just be assigned other people's work. I
|wish businesses could just craft jobs around work that takes
|approximately 5-8 hours a day and hire people to do that work, and
|however long it takes is how long it takes and then you go home.
|Again, I KNOW it wouldn't work in practice, but I wish it could.
|u/Aryana314 - 1 month
|
|I mean, if you work remotely it usually does work this way.
|u/CatherineConstance - 1 month
|
|Agreed, which is why so many places refused to keep remote work
|in action after Covid (or at least not to the same extent that
|they allowed during it). 🙃
|u/Heavenly_Nostrils8 - 1 month
|
|100% agree with you, Catherine! Or at the very least, some sort
|of in-between option. It’s crazy that with how much technology
|has advanced that we still have yet to find a way to work better,
|not harder.
|u/Cybernetic343 - 1 month
|
|I had a similarly hard time with my family when I was doing a
|nightshift job.  It was 2-5 am shelf stacking at the local
|supermarket and after getting home, showered, and settled down, I
|was going to sleep at around 6 am-ish.  But I’d constantly be
|called and texted at 10 am by family and friends asking me to do
|things ‘because I’m home all day’ (trying to sleep!) No one could
|even conceptualise the idea that I wasn’t being lazy by sleeping
|through the daytime because I was working when they were sleeping!
|Eventually I just put my phone on airplane mode because no one
|could be trusted to call me only in an actual emergency.
|u/ancientastronaut2 - 1 month
|
|There's one of those "trackers" in every office, I swear. They
|track how often people use the restroom, if they leave time on the
|microwave and all kinds of useless bullshit.
|u/mhmthatsmyshh - 1 month
|
|Mgr: "Nancy said you've been spending a lot of time at Chuck's
|desk lately." Nancy & the peanut gallery: 👀😶‍🌫️ Me: "Yes,
|hashing out details for Project X." Mgr: "Nancy said you guys
|were laughing." Me: "Yes, Chuck is a funny guy. We get along
|well. I'm lucky to be on a project with someone so easy-going."
|Mgr: "From now on, those conversations need to be via email, so
|you're not spending time away from your desk and distracting
|Chuck from his work." Me: "....I don't see how emails will do
|anything but take up *more* time for each of us." Mgr: * *makes
|notes is personnel file* * Nancy & peanut gallery: * *high
|fives* *
|u/QueenoftheWaterways2 - 1 month
|
|Most offices where I've worked have core hours to ensure people are
|there for meetings - usually 10am-3pm. Other than that, no big
|whoop. There were some managers who preferred it if you came in
|early. They were mostly former military. The few times I went in
|before 8am, the workers who were already there were doing anything
|but work. Ha!
|u/l0R3-R - 1 month
|
|Some people are more oriented towards night time, I don't understand
|why people freak out about it. Also, some people have lengthier
|morning routines- get ready, get their kids ready, prep things for
|dinner so it's ready to go when they get home, walk the dog, drop off
|the kids, go to work- that's like, 2.5 hours, and then maybe the
|commute takes 1/2 hr, 1 hr with traffic. I am impressed those people
|handle it all, 1/2 hr late for those people means they were still up
|at 5:00 am. Then, lateness usually compounds. So like, let's say
|you're 15 minutes late because your dog gets sick before you leave.
|You hit every light, you get stuck in traffic, the day care/school
|wants to scold you for a late drop off, and then you get to work,
|magically only 15 minutes late, and your coworker has a remark.
|Ughhhh.
|u/KampieStarz - 1 month
|
|I worked in fast food. Had to potty when I got there, so instead of
|clocking in and going I made eye contact with manager. When I went to
|clock in 3 mins late I said sorry and explained myself. You would
|have thought I killed his dog...like dude... it's just tacos.
|u/LushStellarNebula47 - 1 month
|
|people who talk loudly on speakerphone in public places
|u/Hotmailet - 1 month
|
|I wander near them and have the most bizarre conversations with my
|wife with slightly exaggerated volume so the person on speakerphone
|can hear… “Yeah… so the doctor said if I just keep putting the
|cream on it, the blisters will go away. I just wish I didn’t get so
|aroused putting the cream on” “…..They’re not sure how many eggs it
|laid in me so you should probably get tested…..” “….And that’s how I
|learned how to use two tampons at once!” (I’m a guy)
|u/CatherineConstance - 1 month
|
|I like how you specified that you're a guy on that last one, as if
|that's a sentence that would make sense if a woman said it LOL
|u/KoreyYrvaI - 1 month
|
|I want to be clearly understood: Every person who has done this *in a
|bathroom stall*, I have prayed for your sudden, horrific death. 
|u/aurorasearching - 1 month
|
|Onetime it hit me in one of the worst possible places. I wasn’t
|making it home, I barely made it to the closest bathroom. I ended
|up having to chop logs in the Walmart bathroom. Anyways, some dude
|comes in and is in the other stall having a conversation in Spanish
|on speakerphone. I absolutely ripped ass, like that reverberated
|off the tile walls. Anyways, the person he was talking with got to
|sounding upset after that, and was switched off speaker quickly
|before I did it again and then the call ended almost immediately. I
|don’t know what was being said, but if they were upset with him he
|deserved it for being on speaker in a public bathroom.
|u/ayatollahofdietcola_ - 1 month
|
|I had a similar experience. My stomach totally noped out on me,
|and I ran into a Publix bathroom. Just when I thought the coast
|was clear, the most obnoxious, shrill New Yorker I have ever
|heard in my life, comes into the bathroom. First thing I hear
|are papers and other things being laid out, and then she starts
|getting on the phone with a bunch of lawyers and ranting and
|raving in detail about how all of her siblings are trying to
|steal Mom’s estate, and how people robbed her house after she
|died - I basically learned more about this woman’s life than I
|ever cared to know Aside from my situation, I felt really bad
|for whoever she was talking to because she was really hammering
|at them and being a complete bitch. I had to go SO bad. As far
|as I was concerned, this woman’s entire purpose on this earth was
|to inflict torture This whole situation was absolutely KILLING
|me and finally decided that I didn't care what this moron thought
|of me. I let go and let God, and it was not inconspicuous. When
|I came out to wash my hands, this woman was quite literally
|taking up the entire Publix bathroom counter with paperwork,
|notebooks, pens… like she was at her own work desk. In a Publix!
|Who goes to the grocery store and acts like this?
|u/LittleBraxted - 1 month
|
|I want to give you a medal. And a special citation for good
|timing
|u/Odd-Love-9600 - 1 month
|
|Not sure this is accepted. Everyone who isn’t an asshole hates those
|people.
|u/rotatingruhnama - 1 month
|
|I listen in, because sometimes it's incredibly entertaining. Like yes
|honey, he's cheating. Oh and if they play music, I start dancing
|along. (I'm a terrible dancer.)
|u/factfarmer - 1 month
|
|Bringing extra people (whom I don’t know) to a meal without asking.
|u/-PricklyBrickly- - 1 month
|
|I can’t fucking stand this. When you make plans with somebody and
|you think it’s just going to be you and them, then they decide to
|bring other people into the equation….is grounds for me to end the
|friendship. Really tho…it bothers me that much. I wish it didn’t but
|it does.
|u/savageleaf - 1 month
|
|This eats me up too. Like you could at least make it known that it
|will not be a one on one.
|u/BibbityBobby - 1 month
|
|It's definitely grounds for me to just leave. Make an excuse -- oh
|sorry i've got a splitting headache, see ya later. And depending
|on how valuable the friendship is letting them know it's not okay
|and if they do it again you'll leave again.
|u/HealthyNaturedFun - 1 month
|
|Had a friend do this on a charity walk. I had moved out of area, I
|drove 3 hours and thought we would catch up and chat like we used
|to for the 6 miles and she brings someone else without telling
|me... He was fine but it really changed the vibe... What a long
|day, driving 6 hours and all that walking... Only did it once! 
|u/-PricklyBrickly- - 1 month
|
|Yeah that would be an issue for me too. I had a similar
|experience where I made plans with a friend to visit Chicago and
|he invited an additional person whom was an
|acquaintance…definitely not a friend of mine. I bailed so fast
|that it upset my friend and really damaged the friendship.
|u/This_Bethany - 1 month
|
|You just unlocked a memory of when I had just gone off to college and
|a friend wanted to come visit and stay the night. When she arrived, I
|wondered why there was a young woman following her… Turned out she
|invited her friend without asking me. Thing was that I lived in a
|sleeper dorm. The kind where you can nearly touch both walls at the
|same time. They basically had to sleep in little balls on the floor
|and I slept on my twin bed. I’m no longer friends with her.
|u/Cool-Assumption3333 - 1 month
|
|Yes! Or asking at the last minute so then you feel like you’ll look
|like a jerk if you say no
|u/Cybernetic343 - 1 month
|
|Adding people to group chats without asking the rest of the group
|first too.
|u/FireLordObamaOG - 1 month
|
|I had an ex do this with her mom and aunt so I said screw it, and
|invited my parents.
|u/Decent_Friend_1511 - 1 month
|
|My friend used to be like “let’s hangout” and I clear my schedule
|just to hangout with her, to get a half hour into hanging out for her
|to say “oh, my coworkers are having a get together right now, let’s
|go!” I don’t know them, I wasn’t invited, and she drags me along, I
|don’t say no cause I hardly see her. We get there and everyone is
|puzzled to see me, ignore me the entire time and about a half hour
|later I ask to leave due to work in the morning and she calls me a
|party pooper. Awkward on both ends, it the invitie that’s the AH
|u/LTLuh - 1 month
|
|Groups of people that occupy the entire sidewalk and see you comming
|and don't make space for you to pass by, having to step down on the
|road to keep walking, hate those people and is too common...
|u/gaylord100 - 1 month
|
|And people that stop in the middle of a walkway to look up where
|they’re going like it literally takes one second to step to the side
|and do that
|u/Inabind4U - 1 month
|
|Had a lady stop full tilt in crowded subway platform...I tried a
|quick "swerve" but clipped her. Screamed like I body slammed her. I
|laughed and said over my shoulder: "You stopped in a crowd,
|Asshat!" Kept walking when she thought I was gonna engage more.
|u/Savings_Draw_6561 - 1 month
|
|In fact my father taught me a technique: to stay straight and stare
|at the horizon. It works really well, very satisfying. They will move
|unconsciously or at the last moment but they will move. I do it all
|the time when a guy is having fun or comes towards me when there is
|no reason it's hilarious to see these assholes move away
|u/PassportSloth - 1 month
|
|Nope. I just stop walking and stand there. You will go around me,
|fuckers.
|u/snooze_champion - 1 month
|
|The trick is to look through them not at them. They'll move. As soon
|as you look at them, it becomes a power struggle to them. 
|u/NebulaSpecial3009 - 1 month
|
|Just keep walking. Chicken can be a very fun game
|u/HealthyNaturedFun - 1 month
|
|Like the ones that walk in wall formation... Ugh, hate that...
|u/Madame_Kitsune98 - 1 month
|
|The phone is not an electronic leash. If you call and I don’t answer?
|Leave a voicemail. If you text? I’ll get back to you when it is
|convenient for me. You are not the only person in my life, and if you
|didn’t birth me, marry me, or I didn’t birth you? You are farther down
|the priority list. I will get to you. On MY time. This notion that we
|MUST answer RIGHT NOW has to stop.
|u/Cybernetic343 - 1 month
|
|My brother called my 3 times in a row to ask about a subscription
|service we shared that I canceled.  If I didn’t answer the first
|time. Or the second time. Why would I be available to answer 2
|seconds later on the 3rd one. Just accept I can’t answer right now
|and text dammit!
|u/Jaereth - 1 month
|
|Oh man if I get the instant callbacks from someone after they hit
|voicemail i'm purposefully going to wait an excruciatingly long
|time before I reply to them.
|u/hoootaru - 1 month
|
|people think it's normal to stare at your phone when your
|friend/acquaintance is with you, etc. I think it's disrespectful.
|u/rotatingruhnama - 1 month
|
|A friend of ours was visiting last weekend, and he was going on and
|on about "iPad kids" with "too much screen time" and how his kid
|wasn't going to be on screens (his wife is pregnant). First off, my
|dude, I had all sorts of opinions before I was a parent. Hypothetical
|kids are the easiest to raise. Second, he was doinking around with
|his smartphone the entire time he was talking to me. Like, not making
|eye contact and half listening to my replies. So I pointedly looked
|at his phone and said, "In my experience, the most important thing is
|to set an example. If you don't want your kid hooked on screens, you
|start with yourself." To his credit, he got it right away and put
|his phone down for the rest of the visit.
|u/dyslexikgiraffe - 1 month
|
|I don't think there's anything wrong with not wanting your child to
|be addicted to devices whether hypothetical or not, maybe he wants
|that because he's aware he has an issue as well, like you pointed
|out to him
|u/Odd-Love-9600 - 1 month
|
|This! When I’m talking to someone, the phone gets put away. Texts and
|all that can wait. Someone will call if it’s super important.
|u/mjigs - 1 month
|
|I had a friendback when we were 18/19, that would spend almost 24h
|with her bf, when she finally got to hangout with us, she either
|bring him or just straight up texted him the whole damn time, we
|all found it so rude because she was already spending so little
|time with us, we were grabbing a quick coffee and she still didnt
|connect with us.
|u/RadiantHC - 1 month
|
|I find it rude to always invite your partner to your social
|events honestly. Just because I want to hang out with you doesn't
|mean that I also want to hang out with your partner.
|u/Odd-Love-9600 - 1 month
|
|Yeah that is incredibly disrespectful to the people right in
|front of you that you should be giving your attention to.
|u/Sigbac - 1 month
|
|Came here for this!! Yes. I will legit stop mod sentence until
|someone is done with whatever is so important on their device, and
|oddly enough when they look up they usually change the subject which
|indicates they wernt even listening.  For me there is no divided
|attention but deviated attention. You can only truly attend to one
|thing at a time, partial attention is (for me) no true attention. 
|u/CrouchingDomo - 1 month
|
|I get so butthurt when the people I’m watching something with are
|also on their phones 😂 Open IMDB, find out it’s Tom Sizemore and
|you know him from *Saving Private Ryan,* and then PUT THE PHONE
|DOWN AND WATCH LAW & ORDER WITH ME! Now is not the time to scroll
|Facebook; Lennie Briscoe is doing his stuff and you’re missing it!
|I’m a big baby and I’ll die on this hill.
|u/everythinglatte - 1 month
|
|Dumping all your problems on your friends and never asking/caring about
|what they have going on. I know someone like this, they’re absolutely
|incapable of talking about anyone but themselves and their problems
|u/Outside_Wrongdoer340 - 1 month
|
|I've written off many people because of this.
|u/reptrept - 1 month
|
|I feel that most people have that kind of friend in their 20s and
|eventually learnt to ditch them in their 30s
|u/pinkpetitfour - 1 month
|
|I had a friend like this. She would vent about her life the whole
|hang out sesh without ever wondering about mine. One time she took me
|on an unprompted tour of her mail route she worked, trapped in her
|car w no way to opt out, while bitching about it 🤣
|u/Moorpheus4993 - 1 month
|
|People that don't use their turn signals. Edit: I know it's a 'duh'
|type of thing but I just want to make it clear that it's something that
|bothers me.
|u/damnuge23 - 1 month
|
|I don’t understand how it’s not muscle memory if you’re not a new
|driver. I use my turn signal without even thinking about it.
|u/Snuggly_Hugs - 1 month
|
|They developed their muscle memeory specifically to mot use their
|signal. I sat at an intersection (was in an Arby's drive through)
|and counted how many folk actually used their turn signal. I saw 3.
|Out of around 500 cars in CA, 3 used their turn signal. smh
|u/WombatBeans - 1 month
|
|Yes, also your indicator is to indicate what you are planning/would
|like to do, NOT what you are actively doing. If you're half way
|through cutting me off and throw on your indicator I have thought
|about cheerfully beating you to death with my Yeti™ waterbottle. Just
|cut me off and fucking floor it, get as far away from me as fast as
|possible.
|u/pretty-late-machine - 1 month
|
|Especially when I'm sitting somewhere for a very long time, waiting
|to turn, and everyone's just turning onto the road I'm on without
|signaling. I'd rather not just guess what people are doing.
|u/Old-Bluejay8188 - 1 month
|
|Networking. I hate it. A bunch of people playing the "notice me and be
|impressed" game. Attending events just so people know you exist in the
|hopes that some day, some random person from the hundreds of people you
|made eye contact with will hire you for something else. I'll keep my
|boring little job and not attend time wasting events, thanks.
|u/BarMeBro - 1 month
|
|I once told a mentor that I hate networking, and his response stuck
|with me. He said, if I want to accomplish big things, then I cannot
|hope to accomplish them alone. One person needs many people to help
|them along to their big goals, or else it’s just a very large task
|that they try all their life to do but most likely make little
|headway on. So networking is a mechanism for building trust with
|people so that they are available when ready to set big plans into
|motion. That said, my goals are all very small and simple, so doing
|them alone is completely feasible. Thus, networking is still useless.
|u/DesertPeachyKeen - 1 month
|
|I've had to shift my perspective on what I consider networking.
|Networking events and fairs don't work for me. Working with others
|to accomplish a goal while building relationships along the way
|does.
|u/PineappleOnPizzaWins - 1 month
|
|Eh to a point. I can’t be bothered with any of it but in my
|decades long career I’ve learned that the people who *do* go shake
|hands and brown nose frequently have it pay off and have their
|careers skyrocket. Do you need to do it? No. But pretending it
|doesn’t have a lot of perks is just kidding yourself.
|u/schaukelwurmv - 1 month
|
|Never been to any event like that but it surely sounds like hell.
|u/Tuckertcs - 1 month
|
|The entire process of getting a job, doing a job, and keeping a job
|is just a giant performative and fake circle jerk, and it’s
|unnecessary.
|u/Kabian321 - 1 month
|
|Putting down every thing on the internet . A movie just came out? Sucks
|. Music just dropped ? Sucks . Someone made some food ? Sucks .
|Celebrity had a bad day and yelled at someone ? Sucks and they should
|lose their career . There is nothing positive on the internet now .
|Everything "sucks " And if you do happen to enjoy something , some
|shithead will certainly try to break you down over it .
|u/Actual_Ad_1367 - 1 month
|
|YES! Thank you for this. It’s actually depressing to read comments
|on anything, especially news or pop culture stuff because it’s always
|a stack of critics responding. Dare to call them out or tell them to
|get lost? “Well, you made it my business by posting it. Don’t put it
|out there if you don’t want my opinion.” 🤦🏻‍♂️
|u/temalyen - 1 month
|
|I can't remember who it was, but I saw some comedian compare it to
|one of those boards where people put notices on, stuff like,
|"Guitar lessons" and those little tabs you can pull off the paper
|with contact info. The joke was something like, "When I tweet, I'm
|putting out a message in general. I'm not directing it at any
|specific person. But I always get responses with people screaming
|at me that they don't agree with what I said. That's fine, move on,
|I don't need to know. If people acted in real life like they do on
|social media, they'd take the contact information on the board and
|then call the guy and scream 'I DON'T WANT GUITAR LESSONS!' Yeah,
|that's not for you, then. Move on." I'm sure he told it about a
|hundred times better than I did, though.
|u/moreofajordan - 1 month
|
|OOF there are some subs that make me feel crazy when I venture in.
|Who knew I was supposed to feel offended by so many things?!?
|u/mrp0013 - 1 month
|
|Yes. This exactly. It sucks. 😉
|u/JackFJN - 1 month
|
|Yeah, everybody has to have an extreme opinion on everything. There’s
|no room to say something is just “alright” or “it’s good, but it
|could be better”
|u/LinkleLinkle - 1 month
|
|Or even 'I can understand that this was really well made but it's
|not for me'. If somebody just doesn't vibe with a TV
|show/movie/video game they can never acknowledge that they don't
|like it for subjective reasons and that objectively there's little
|to nothing wrong with it. Which often leads to being nitpicky and
|destructive over every detail just to 'prove' their subjective
|opinion. And they rarely have any sort of self awareness. A detail
|they'll use to prove one thing is 'poorly made and has awful
|writing' will be something they praise over something else that
|they love. I've known people that will hop between saying one movie
|'has bad writing because you shouldn't have two characters just
|state their opinions about each other, that's lazy writing' to
|praising another movie because 'the movie is genius because the
|characters just openly state how they feel about each other and
|*that's* how you do dialog.' And they can never admit that the
|difference between the two things isn't the quality of writing.
|It's that they just subjectively liked one and not the other.
|u/BoSocks91 - 1 month
|
|Same answers every time this question is asked. Noisy phones, being
|late, slobs etc. Not really answering the question. These aren’t
|“norms”. These are inconsiderate people lol.
|u/Cautious_Ice_884 - 1 month
|
|Having the volume on your phone all the way up in public. If thats
|watching a video, listening to music, or talking on the phone. I don't
|want to hear what you're listening to or your conversation. Its rude as
|fuck to everyone else. No idea how its become more acceptable for this
|shit.
|u/loonylunatic - 1 month
|
|Crying on social media. I can’t imagine myself prepping up my phone to
|record myself in the middle of a cry.
|u/mssleepyhead73 - 1 month
|
|Some people really just need to be told to be quiet. I’ve met way too
|many people who seem to like the sound of their own voice way too much,
|and the constantly dominating conversations seems to just be accepted
|by the people around them. It’s incredibly frustrating.
|u/davey_mann - 1 month
|
|Yeah, I can't stand people who run their mouths incessantly. I'm like
|take a breath once in a while! lol
|u/WombatBeans - 1 month
|
|Extra annoying when their pet makes a mess in the pet store and they
|ASSume it is the employee's job to clean it up. Babe if it were my
|job to clean up after Fido we wouldn't have clean up stations all
|over the place. Clean up after your fucking dog.
|u/sleeprobot - 1 month
|
|Or when they clean it up to look like they are doing the right thing
|and just leave the plastic bag of poo somewhere because they are too
|lazy to carry a bag of shit to an actual garbage can. And don’t
|throw it in my city garbage can either bc the garbage men won’t take
|it 🙄 Man I hate lazy pet owners.
|u/Rooper2111 - 1 month
|
|I don’t think anyone actually read the prompt before posting. This
|isn’t something “everyone seems to accept”.
|u/Hot_Valuable1027 - 1 month
|
|Ppl need more social space awareness.
|u/Resident-Paper15 - 1 month
|
|Asking quiet people "why are you so quiet? speak more!" If I answer "
|why are you so loud? Speak less!" I am the asshole 🙄
|u/kayellie - 1 month
|
|I agree. "Mundane conversation is for people who are not comfortable
|with themselves and silence".
|u/Uereks - 1 month
|
|I have coworkers who CANNOT work in silence. They're always
|starting up pointless conservations just to make noise. I often
|think, "wow, their brains must be really quiet."
|u/dontcarerightnow12 - 1 month
|
|When did we switch from holding the phone up to your ear to talk to
|having it on speakerphone for everyone to hear? It drives me insane!
|u/WorldTravelerKevin - 1 month
|
|IMO, The only time a phone should be on speaker is when you are alone
|in a room OR there are multiple people on your end that need to be
|heard. Any other time is just annoying. If this is near me, you can
|expect me to chime in from time to time to discuss the most bizarre
|kinks I can imagine.
|u/TheBookIRead77 - 1 month
|
|At the airport, people who stand blocking the baggage carousel, as if
|they are the only ones that need to get their bags. Selfish f*cks
|u/TheBookIRead77 - 1 month
|
|And, how about those families of 4-6+ who walk down the concourse
|slowly, shoulder-to-shoulder, blocking people trying to get to their
|gates? I’ve learned that there are 2 types of people in the world:
|those who take only as much as they need, and those who take as much
|as they can.
|u/MaxAndRiRi - 1 month
|
|Or the people who stand at the line to board before they are supposed
|to, blocking the people trying to board.
|u/SnooRegrets8068 - 1 month
|
|I had a recruiter give a weird response to that, I replied good, said
|you? they then said they didn't want to be too familiar. Seemed odd
|for basically a sales person.
|u/jaywinner - 1 month
|
|So they asked a question they were unwilling to answer themselves?
|That's insane, especially considering most people don't even answer
|it honestly. It's just a greeting.
|u/Lopkop - 1 month
|
|How are you? Good That's good Yes, good is good.
|u/Razzmatazzer91 - 1 month
|
|I'd rather us both just say "hello" or "good morning/afternoon" and
|move on with our day, haha.
|u/AliciaKills - 1 month
|
|"I SAID GOOD DAY, SIR!"
|u/HeftyRecommendation5 - 1 month
|
|I’ve found this weird ever since I was a kid. Most of the time it is
|said by people who I barely know and who obviously don’t give a shit
|about the real answer anyway. Just say ‘hi/hello’ and move on lol.
|u/AlienSandwhich - 1 month
|
|I always struggle with this and share how much my body hurts that
|day, or how my cat woke me up at 3 am, or any number of actual things
|I am experiencing. It's one of many social things that makes me
|wonder if I've actually just been autistic my whole life. Society is
|weird.
|u/broken_door2000 - 1 month
|
|I hate being asked “how are you”
|u/Glass-Paramedic-4337 - 1 month
|
|Lying. Being nice to your face talking behind backs. Having your words
|not match your actions.
|u/shihtzu_knot - 1 month
|
|People who don’t use headphones in public. It’s especially bad at
|airports and on hiking trails.
|u/JustSomeoneOnlin3 - 1 month
|
|Putting double or triple meanings behind words. I mean the words I
|said. I do not mean that left-field thing you've decided it means.
|Ex: "Wanna do something? I'm bored" is not an invite to a hookup. It's
|a proclamation that I'm bored and wanna do something.
|u/LinkleLinkle - 1 month
|
|The opposite also upsets me. When people intentionally put double or
|triple meaning behind things and then get upset when you call it out.
|Like most people when they say 'I love that hat on you' mean that
|literally, you're rocking your hat. But then some people will say 'I
|love that hat on you' with a sly grin because they mean 'I think your
|hat is ugly and I can't believe you're wearing it'. Often times
|they're the same ones assuming everything you say has some deeper
|meaning, too. We shouldn't need secret decoder rings to figure out
|what any of us are saying.
|u/BuzzWacko - 1 month
|
|Right?! I am supposedly your friend, not your entertainment.
|u/ThatKehdRiley - 1 month
|
|Put your fucking shopping carts in the right spot after using it!
|u/anoncelestialbody - 1 month
|
|I work retail and it drives me nuts when people just leave their
|carts *next to* where you’re supposed to put them. Especially when
|it’s multiple people and now there’s a huge mess of carts that I have
|to put away.
|u/ihnei - 1 month
|
|Talking over each other! So many people are not aware when they are
|interrupting someone else who's talking and just talk over it. Thank
|god for the people listening who do not switch their attention to the
|interrupter and keep listening to the first person talking. But it
|happens way too often without people addressing this much.
|u/ancientastronaut2 - 1 month
|
|Or how about the opposite? People who talk and talk and never pause
|to let you get a word in! I have a few people in my life like that,
|and thanks to ADD, I usually forget what I was going to say or ask by
|the time they shut up. OR I just give up and completely lose interest
|in what they're saying.
|u/HawaiianShirtsOR - 1 month
|
|Using psychological disorders to describe minor problems. It takes away
|from people who actually experience those disorders. Like saying "I
|have anxiety" for just feeling nervous. Or saying "I'm OCD" for wanting
|to keep things clean and orderly. Or "he's psychotic" to describe
|someone's angry outburst.
|u/cabinetbanana - 1 month
|
|And not everyone is a fucking narcissist!
|u/Natural-Difficulty-6 - 1 month
|
|Just had a conversation about a month ago with a friend about this.
|Explained that tons of people can have narcissistic TRAITS without
|being actual narcissists. People are egoistic in nature. It’s the
|human condition. No one is purely selfless. People are just
|assholes. Doesn’t make them a narcissist.
|u/madamtrashbat - 1 month
|
|Me, yelling this at my fiancé's father because it's his fun new
|word to use as an accusation since he finally cut his mom out of
|his life. Sometimes people are just assholes, not everyone is your
|mother!
|u/HabitNo8608 - 1 month
|
| RIGHT. There’s a certain breed of people that will tell you
|everyone they’ve ever known is a narcissist with a totally straight
|face. I’m so sure.
|u/halfdeadmoon - 1 month
|
|seems like it is the new word for selfish people
|u/CleaningMySlate - 1 month
|
|I hate how common[
|therapyspeak](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Therapy_speak) has
|become.
|u/ancientastronaut2 - 1 month
|
|Or the overuse/misuse of gaslighting. And toxic.
|u/Onigumo-Shishio - 1 month
|
|The weird ass office or workplace culture where EEEEVERYONE has to be
|social or whatever otherwise you get the talking to from some random
|higher up about "not participating enough" or "being enthusiastic" Or
|the random force of moral or office or workplace events. If a mother
|fucker comes to work and does their job, then leave them the fuck
|alone.
|u/MisterEarth - 1 month
|
|QR code menus only at restaurants. Fucking ridiculous. I don’t want to
|scroll through my phone just to see the menu. Side note: this shit
|encourages everyone to just pull out their damn iPhones for the rest of
|the meal
|u/curi0usmusician - 1 month
|
|yep, went to lunch with my grandparents and they didn't understand
|the qr code. when we finally got the menu pulled up on their phones,
|it was hard to navigate and the text was too small for my
|grandparents to read. It was such a hassle to track down a waiter who
|had to find a real paper menu.
|u/maaybebaby - 1 month
|
|Also a lot of places that have these have clunky fucking websites or
|there’s no service or WiFi so I can’t load it anyway… 
|u/MossNeutral - 1 month
|
|I used to work at a restaurant that had these. Not only are they
|annoying as hell to use, but the managers would constantly get upset
|with me and other servers for having to spend extra time with
|customers explaining how the QR code works, and how to navigate the
|online menu, and how to connect to the restaurant wifi...the whole
|thing just sucked for everyone involved.
|u/crankyweasels - 1 month
|
|Leisurely walking four abreast on a sidewalk so nobody can get around
|you
|u/phillipaw91997 - 1 month
|
|How acceptable it is to excessively drink alcohol. Now I’m not saying
|it should be illegal or anything but as a recovering alcoholic it’s
|clear to me now how the atmosphere around alcohol allows for some
|people who are alcoholic to operate under the illusion that they just
|like to party. No one is gonna tell them otherwise because it’s so
|prevalent and accepted and for those that do need the help, it’s to
|their detriment. Obviously not everyone.
|u/Direct-Carry5458 - 1 month
|
|It's super weird how there is this one drug that is super popular and
|acceptable and in some ways it is the most harmful of all of them
|u/lindsaybethhh - 1 month
|
|YES. Check out any of the pregnancy subreddits, and you’ll see
|hundreds of posts saying things like, “I just found out I’m pregnant!
|How do I hide it from my family when they offer me a drink?” It
|should be socially acceptable to just not want to drink in every
|situation. I’ve had two kids, and both times I’ve been pregnant, my
|sister “knew” because I didn’t order drinks if we went out to eat.
|What if I just didn’t feel like it? It’s so strange how normal it is
|for people to just drink all the time.
|u/Impossible_Form_2826 - 1 month
|
|They go as far as making you feel guilty for not drinking alcool with
|them if you ordered a cup of tee while everyone else is having a
|cocktail. That's not fair. Alcool is bad for anyone, but it is very
|very bad in some circumstances, you can't just push people into
|drinking alcool when they don't feel like or have a reason not to do
|so. o\_o One thing that makes me extremely angry is when people see
|someone who is already visibly drunk and bring them more alcool,
|because they think it is funny to see someone completely lose common
|sense and puke their soul out, or piss their pants, or end up in very
|embarrassing situations. Don't they think how bad it can end?
|u/Fickle-Secretary681 - 1 month
|
|I saw a comment the other day, a guy bragging about how he pisses
|the bed every time he drinks. And he wonders why he's single. Can
|you imagine how absolutely disgusting that mattress is? How do
|people think that's normal?
|u/Fearless-Boba - 1 month
|
|We had a guy our friend group knew in college who would famously
|get back out drunk and then come sit with us and tell us all
|about the girls he talked to (just talked, not intimacy or
|contact of any kind) the night before while at a party, but then
|he'd wake up alone under a table with all of the people whose
|house it was already gone for the day and he'd be covered in his
|own urine in his clothes. Happened every time he'd drink and I
|think we were his only "real" friends (more like acquaintances,
|as we barely saw him or hung out with him) that he had when
|sober, and we honestly felt bad for him every time he told us a
|atory like that. He thought his stories were comical and made
|great "drinking stories" but honestly they were just genuinely
|sad. He also peed on his phone once during the heavy drinking
|sleep pee episodes and had to get another one. I think his
|drinking buddies just liked him drunk and how crazy he'd get and
|the stupid crap he'd do. None of my friends (there were 30 of us)
|really drank much or partied...we'd legit have like a beer around
|a campfire or we'd have like a mixed drink while watching movies
|or something, but most of the time we were drinking like soda and
|water and iced tea especially on weekdays and just sort of hang
|out and do homework. This guy went out basically every night and
|we'd see him maybe once or twice a week in the dining hall when
|he'd come sit with us. We tried to invite him to hang with us,
|but he always chose the parties and the fake friends instead.
|Still friends with him on Facebook to this day and it looks like
|he'd cleaned himself up and he lives with and takes care of his
|mom.
|u/grenille - 1 month
|
|It's many people's whole personalities. It accompanies every activity
|they do. It's weird and it's creepy.
|u/jrob323 - 1 month
|
|If you have severe social anxiety, alcohol is a game changer. You
|go from wanting to be a hermit to feeling comfortable in your own
|skin and actually enjoying being around people. It's a "miracle
|cure" that will drag you right down the rathole and destroy your
|life. Most alcoholics struggle with this, and it invariably comes
|from a bad childhood.
|u/Mekanicol - 1 month
|
|For me it only ever made it worse. So much worse. I couldn't
|handle not being able to control my behavior so I couldn't do
|anything to potentially embarrass myself. Alcohol and drugs in
|general just amplified my anxiety about a million times over.
|u/kealoha - 1 month
|
|A few years ago I made some friends through work and they are very
|successful people who "love to get blackout" like every weekend.
|They're in their 30s. I thought that behavior stopped after
|college... I mean, it must feel so miserable the next few days, I'm
|not sure why someone would continue doing that.
|u/HalfwayHumanish - 1 month
|
|100/% agree. There's normalized references even in songs. My kid is
|noticing so many songs talking about being drunk or in bars, or
|advertisements for alcohol, and asks why people sing about it and
|advertise it if it's bad for you. From such a young age, excessive
|drinking is seen as normal, and at a point it's made out to be like a
|rite of passage. It's not even just partying. There is so much
|content, jokes, even recommendations that moms "unwind" with alcohol.
|I think I became a problem drinker due to that. I thought it was
|normal to do after stressful days or even daily. And when the days
|got longer and more stressful, the drinking became more frequent. I
|thought it helped me get things done, calm down, get to sleep, etc. I
|realized how badly it was affecting me and my body, and it was hard
|to just stop. Now I think back and feel bad about how much money I
|wasted, and how toxic alcohol is for the brain and body. Nobody
|around me acted like it could even be an issue.
|u/ancientastronaut2 - 1 month
|
|TV does not help at all! Every show has you believe everyone drinks
|after work every day, or even at work.
|u/Interesting_Setting - 1 month
|
|I find this weird, too. Especially because my mom's family never
|really drank, and neither did my step dad's family. None of them even
|kept it in the house at all. They might have a drink on special
|occasions, but even that was rare. Mean while, as an adult, I know so
|many alcoholics and their families drink every day. It's just weird
|to me cause I rarely ever drink. Even when I was young, I hardly ever
|drank. If I do, it's usually a glass of champagne or a mixed drink on
|a special occasion once every few years.
|u/pwa09 - 1 month
|
|When arriving to work in the morning, before even putting down your
|bags or settling in your area, people want to be in your face and start
|talking right away or even start asking you work related questions
|before even giving you a chance to sit down. I find it to be
|inconsiderate and obnoxious. Also, to assume everyone’s in a joking and
|talkative mood every hour of the work day. It’s very draining to have
|to engage in constant small talk and forced laughter 8+ hours a day.
|People really need to learn how to have self and social awareness,
|there’s an alarming amount of people who lack it.
|u/Winter_Ratio_4831 - 1 month
|
|Phones during meals & conversations with others. Rude & dismissive
|behavior. The addiction is astounding.
|u/feelitinmyvonnegut - 1 month
|
|Coming in for work when you’re sick. Stay the fuck home 💕
|u/RedBackpacker - 1 month
|
|I agree to an extent. However, we really need some better sick pay. I
|get 4 days A YEAR. I tend to get two colds in a year. I'm sick for
|3-5 days. I can't take that hit to my pay or use my one week of
|vacation. Luckily, I work construction so I can distance myself but
|it's not as easy as you make it sound.
|u/breebree934 - 1 month
|
|Agreed. We don't get sick days at all where I work. Either you
|choose to not get paid for the time you're out or you dip into your
|PTO so you can get paid. Shit's fucked.
|u/October_Surmise - 1 month
|
|One would think people would've learned a lesson or two about this
|for some reason recently...
|u/Corasama - 1 month
|
|Tbf , nobody does that willingly. There's always pressure (monetary
|or personnal) plus the bias from school days.
|u/Perrary - 1 month
|
|This little game where you have to dance around people before you can
|accept something from them. It's ridiculous, if someone is offering to
|give me sth and I want it I'm going to take it without this whole
|bullshit.
|u/hobbes8889 - 1 month
|
|Yeah, I've never done this. I will thank them, accept the help, and
|move on.
|u/jemidiah - 1 month
|
|Same. I have a good friend who has a favor scorecard he mentally
|keeps. He compulsively needs to be ahead or have a plan to pull
|ahead soon before he'll accept favors. Mostly it's fine, but
|sometimes it's genuinely annoying. We recently traveled together
|and stayed at a friend of his' place, and rather than slightly
|inconveniencing the other friend, the plan was for us to sleep in
|an airport for an hour. In reality the other friend would have been
|completely fine with the slight inconvenience, and frankly would
|have been horrified that we slept in the airport. If I offer a
|favor, it's not with the expectation of some sort of reciprocation.
|It's a genuine offer that you're free to take or leave with no
|strings or games.
|u/CunningRunt - 1 month
|
|Dinner party with six people. Five of them are on their phones.
|u/02C_here - 1 month
|
|The rule I have is if I pay before I get my service/food, there is no
|tip. I do sometimes throw some dollars in the tip jar, but only do
|that if I have cash. I'm paranoid the worker doesn't see all the tip
|when I use the machine, but I don't really know.
|u/turandokht - 1 month
|
|I’ve heard of businesses (not all but it’s not like they advertise
|which) that just keep any and all tip entered into the terminal,
|for counter service style places. I’ve even had employees skip that
|screen for me, rather pointedly lol Now if I really want to tip
|but don’t have cash, I bluntly ask the cashier if they get the tip
|from the screen. It is definitely not everyone, but I was still
|shocked at the amount of people that told me no.
|u/Knyfe-Wrench - 1 month
|
|Nothing makes me want to tip more than an employee skipping the
|tip screen.
|u/GingerRootBeer - 1 month
|
|Particularly when it’s an order at a counter establishment😩 I
|understand the tip screen is part of the software but I drove myself
|over here and stood in line y’all should be tipping ME
|u/SnooRegrets8068 - 1 month
|
|I've had it on a website ordering a rubix cube, like all you do is
|box the things up and send it to me. Which I am paying a postage
|charge for, plus the profit margin etc. I can't imagine they get
|many takers.
|u/MeatloafAndWaffles - 1 month
|
|I love the Flip the screen toward you while looking away combo they
|hit you with. “Ok and the screen is going to ask you one more
|question” Sir, I ordered a piece of cake that wasn’t even baked
|here.
|u/bachyboy - 1 month
|
|Blocking traffic flow on a sidewalk or store aisle by stopping dead in
|your tracks and staring intensely at your phone. Move aside if you're
|gonna be fussing with that thing!
|u/Proud-Diver-6213 - 1 month
|
|Filming others in public without their knowledge or permission
|u/CrazyCartoonLady - 1 month
|
|People standing like sardines in line. It doesn't get us there any
|faster ! I miss the covid 6-foot personal bubble :(
|u/airelivre - 1 month
|
|The worst is when you’ve got someone coughing sniffing and sneezing
|right on your shoulder. 
|u/Deichgraf17 - 1 month
|
|Asking "how are you?" as a greeting while not actually being
|interested.
|u/Goodboyfyu - 1 month
|
|Being late everytime
|u/everythinglatte - 1 month
|
|This is an acquaintance of mine. She’s late for everything with
|pretty much no reason, but God forbid you’re a few minutes late to
|something she plans and she’ll whine about it to no end. Hence why
|she’s an acquaintance.
|u/VenusRocker - 1 month
|
|These people seem to have zero self-awareness. I once worked with
|two women who were, separately, late for work every single day. It
|was a job where that really didn't matter, but each woman dutifully
|called in every single day with whatever lame excuse she could
|muster. Finally, I told them they didn't need to call, I assumed
|they would be late. They were genuinely shocked, apparently
|neither one had realized. Surreal moment.
|u/kealoha - 1 month
|
|I actually attempted to end a 15-year friendship for this because I
|finally lost my patience. Friend flipped out on me and then weeks
|later made amends. I cautiously reconnected as it felt bad to throw
|away such a long friendship. Guess what? She's still late every time
|I meet her. Which is why I don't make plans with her anymore.
|u/WombatBeans - 1 month
|
|I abhor lateness. My stepdad when I was growing up made us late for
|everything constantly. If he was picking me up from school?
|Guaranteed I was the last kid there by a lot, like last kid before me
|was gone a good 20 minutes before he'd show up. Because of that I'm
|defensively punctual. I'll be somewhere 30 minutes early and sit in
|my car listening to a podcast until it's socially acceptable to go
|in.
|u/nailbunny2000 - 1 month
|
|This is right up there for me, there's zero excuse for it to happen
|repeatedly. I remember going on a 1st date with a girl and I am sat
|waiting 20 mins at our meeting spot, I call her up, and she had not
|even left home yet. I went home, and got a call from 20 min later. I
|didnt answer.
|u/robotco - 1 month
|
|I waited for a girl for a date in the freezing cold for over an
|hour once. to her credit, she did eventually show and apologized
|profusely. turns out she lived across the river, and the only
|access to the city is by ferry and if there just happens to be a
|lot of traffic there's not much you could do but wait
|u/brit_brat915 - 1 month
|
|I have family member who are late to every family event and they like
|to pull the "it's just who I am" card 🙄 oh? someone with poor
|time management skills? someone inconsiderate of others? got it! it
|IS who you are 💁🏽‍♀️💁🏽‍♀️
|u/tossitlikeadwarf - 1 month
|
|Yeees. This frustrates me all the time. If I can be on time then why
|can't others? Why is it acceptable to have me wait 10-20 minutes
|instead of them leaving 10-20 minutes earlier? Really drives me
|nuts...
|u/AdElectronic50 - 1 month
|
|Fckin presents. We have everything and if we need anything we just buy
|it without even getting out the door. Still every Christmas I have to
|find some original bullshit idea to give to brothers, parents,
|girlfriend and so on.
|u/HealthyNaturedFun - 1 month
|
|Or worse, when you tell people you don't celebrate Christmas and
|don't want to exchange gifts... And they get you something anyway.
|WTF
|u/SweetNastySophomore - 1 month
|
|Loud kids, shouting and running everywhere and parents don't give a
|damn about their kids.
|u/Kantlim - 1 month
|
|In work, assuming that i have no plans because i don't have kids. And
|expecting i will always change my schedule because some mom wants to
|take her kid on some trip or other shet.
|u/ISeeMusicInColor - 1 month
|
|And if you say no, sometimes they hit you with "but you don't have a
|family." Well that's news to me! I should tell my partner, parents,
|sister, nieces, nephews, aunts, uncles, and cousins.
|u/Kantlim - 1 month
|
|Tbh, even if my plans were to sit on my butt and watch Netflix,
|that's not their busines.
|u/ThatQuail3 - 1 month
|
|Bringing your fucking dog everywhere, including in stores!! And I
|freaking love dogs, but come on. Don’t just assume they can come to
|social gatherings
|u/CatherineConstance - 1 month
|
|Yes omg! And when people have zero plan for what to do when they open
|the door to their house and their dog just bolts out and jumps on the
|people coming in, or runs away, or sprints into the street. Like
|dude, if you have this little control over your dog, you need to have
|a baby gate or something keeping them from getting to the door.
|u/Biobot775 - 1 month
|
|It's so frustrating. Many of my friends are "dog people", and most of
|us finally have houses. Now they just bring their friggin dogs to all
|of each others' houses, parties included, indoors or outdoors,
|doesn't matter. Now I can't go to a Halloween or New Year's Eve party
|or whatnot without at least 4+ dogs running around on their shittiest
|behaviour. I'm so tired of it but they all love it because their dogs
|get to play with other dogs for awhile I guess. You can't set food or
|a drink down anywhere. Last time at one such event I was sitting on a
|couch eating when one of their medium sized dogs reacted to another
|dog by bolting up and across the couch and was fully on top of me
|when I reactively two-arm yeeted it off of me, literally threw the
|pooch like 4 feet, scared the shit out of it. The room erupted in
|laughter as I dealt with my food and drink being scattered. How the
|fuck is that cool or funny? I will throw your fucking dog everytime
|if you let it act like a monster and run all over me. What's worse,
|nobody stays at our place anymore because they can't bring their
|dogs. Half of our group lives on one side of the state, the other
|half the other, but they'll only stay at each other's houses and all
|the gatherings are at those houses because fuckin dogs. They can't
|kennel them? They don't have a single dogproofed room or garage or
|basement or outside kennel and doghouse or ANY solution at all?
|They've GOT to bring every dog every time? I just don't get it. Every
|fuckin event has to be catered around dogs. Going to concerts is a
|logistical nightmare. Dogs are alright. Dog owners are obnoxious. Or
|maybe just my friends are.
|u/Separate_Will_7752 - 1 month
|
|I had a woman chase me down one time because I didn’t want to pet her
|dog in the produce section of a grocery store. I told her I was
|allergic so it was her mission to prove her dog doesn’t trigger
|allergies. I just wanted avocados.
|u/No-Understanding-912 - 1 month
|
|Restaurants are the worst, what happened to health and safety
|regulations? You used to not be able to bring animals into places
|where food is sold. I want to see some paperwork on that service
|chihuahua before you step through that door. And this isn't even
|getting into all the people with allergies that are now in an
|inclosed space with your animal, because you can't be bothered to
|leave them at home.
|u/OutlandishnessNo07 - 1 month
|
|My SIL does that. She actually says "I can't/won't come unless I can
|bring my dogs". Ugh... train your dogs to stay home alone for a few
|hours, I don't want your stinky dog in my house.
|u/Lind4L4and - 1 month
|
|I had a friend who actually stopped talking to me because of this!
|Sorry, I can’t have dogs that systematically attack cats in my
|house terrorizing my two cats and rabbit. And I don’t want your
|pugs rubbing their face smegma all over my velvet couch. The
|friendship wasn’t that much of a loss now that I think of it.
|u/taherabintereaz - 1 month
|
|Endless small talk in social settings, especially when it's forced or
|feels insincere, is irritating.
|u/No-History-886 - 1 month
|
|Gender reveal parties.
|u/ThesePomegranate3197 - 1 month
|
|Slow walkers. Move to the right.
|u/Acceptable-Edge8091 - 1 month
|
|Not matching freeway speeds on on-ramps with enough space to do so. Not
|only is it stupid it's also dangerous and inconsiderate.
|u/20Keller12 - 1 month
|
|Bringing dogs (pets/fake service dogs, not legitimate trained ones)
|into stores, restaurants, etc. They have zero consideration for other
|people, especially those who may be allergic. You don't see people
|taking their cats everywhere.
|u/Charming_Cod5945 - 1 month
|
|As a disabled person who has several friends in the community who
|have genuine needs for service animals (who are specifically trained
|for a specific purpose I.E. a seeing eye dog vs. an alert dog) it
|INFURIATES me when people abuse this. Especially going as far as
|buying the fake vest (which is illegal in like 30 something states).
|You’re a piece of shit if you do that. You are making the lives of
|disabled people so much harder when they have to fight to prove the
|legitimacy of both their disability and their service animal. And the
|way people act like they are entitled to just bring their dog with
|them everywhere if they get them classified as an ESA is also
|bullshit. They also tend to be the worst type of people, just
|breathtakingly entitled, rude, stubborn and doesn’t give a flying
|f*ck about how their actions impact others. ESA protections extend to
|where you live or where you have to stay (hotels) and that’s it, they
|aren’t protected in airports anymore because of how many people
|abused it. You do not need to take your poorly trained “ESA” dog to
|target or a restaurant and if you really can’t do those things
|without an ESA you should be staying home and going to therapy to
|figure that shit out.
|u/winter_laurel - 1 month
|
|I used to work in a library, where we did not allow pets, and the
|fake service dog claims were such a pain in the ass. My favorite
|was this guy who came into the library with a dog wearing a fake
|vest, and when we asked him to please not bring his pet dog into
|the library, he claimed it was a service dog, which was precisely
|the point at which the dog sat down and scoots it’s butt along the
|carpet- the damn dog was going in circles and really grinding it’s
|butthole into the carpet. The guy yells at the dog and yanks on
|its leash to try to get it to stand up. He couldn’t leave fast
|enough.
|u/throneofthornes - 1 month
|
|Ngl I would love to take my cat everywhere. I wouldn't, and she'd
|hate it because she already pretends to die when I put a leash on
|her, but a girl can dream.
|u/SteakandTrach - 1 month
|
|Better yet, Hospitals.
|u/abominable-bean - 1 month
|
|This family brought in their very ill mannered black lab into
|Walmart, with no leash. They walked around getting things off the
|shelf holding this damn dog by the collar, which was so loose she
|slipped out of it a couple times. This dog is jumping on the shelves
|and on elderly people. Why would you even think of doing this?
|u/blacka-var - 1 month
|
|being always late. it makes me mad.
|u/Ok-Cook-7542 - 1 month
|
|Even worse, not letting the other people involved know you are going
|to be late as soon as you find out. 
|u/detainthisDI - 1 month
|
|Autistic person here. I hate it when people say one thing and mean
|another, and when they imply things. The amount of times my mother has
|told me “the dishwasher’s clean” and then got upset when it wasn’t
|emptied when I was a teen was… unfortunate, to say the least. Nowadays
|she knows to ask me directly just in case I don’t get it
|u/RxStrengthBob - 1 month
|
|used to work with dude who asked me to hand him a piece of paper one
|time. I looked around and couldnt find one so i went to pull one from
|the printer when he angrily stomped over, picked up a business card
|and showed it to me like I was an idiot and then huffed and walked
|away. I stood there for a second simultaneously confused and about
|three seconds away from committing a federal crime. I realize I'm
|overly literal, but WAY too many people 1) don't say what they mean
|and 2) expect you to bridge the gap for them even when it's not
|obvious. It's infuriating because frequently the individual in
|question is actually a fucking moron who lacks the ability to use
|their words correctly and half of their anger is frustration with
|themselves. But they direct at you nonetheless. I love it here
|lmao.
|u/Fyre-Bringer - 1 month
|
|Who in the world calls a business card paper? When this sort of
|thing happens, I go, "Oh, you meant a *business card.* I've never
|heard anyone call them *paper*..."   And I might say a sentence
|or two more. I say it in a babying voice that makes them
|embarrassed and maybe even feel stupid for calling it a paper
|instead of a business card.
|u/Illustrious_Repair - 1 month
|
|I still don't understand. He was asking for a business card? What?
|Who calls those pieces of paper?
|u/armadildoo - 1 month
|
|This one got me too. Oh my lord, it’s the actual worst. And I hate it
|in a work environment. Like just use your words and ask me, don’t get
|all shy and start hinting. It’ll fly right over my head and then
|you’ll get all mad cause it’s not done, when all you had to do was
|say “could you do this?” and it would’ve been done correctly when you
|wanted.
|u/Separate_Will_7752 - 1 month
|
|It’s this and the way they think we’re giving attitude when we ask
|clarifying questions. My brain is built different, that doesn’t make
|me psychic.
|u/WorldTravelerKevin - 1 month
|
|You are NOT alone in this fight. I am NOT autistic. But if someone
|wants me to do something, either say it or I won’t do it.
|u/Horizontal_Bob - 1 month
|
|Sharing your life and all your thoughts online for attention. This
|desperation for attention and likes is so foreign to me
|u/NotThatPhilCollins - 1 month
|
|Playing music so loud in their car it actually can be heard several
|streets away, same with music in your house.
|u/MyDishwasherLasagna - 1 month
|
|Also: Playing music like this but in an apartment parking lot. I
|live in a house, but it's adjacent to an apartment complex parking
|lot. It is common for people to just sit in their car and blast
|music at high volume because they can't do it in their apartment. I
|hate it.
|u/DragonFaery13 - 1 month
|
|I live in an apartment complex, therea people that will sit in the
|parking lot blasting music and driking at all hours of the night.
|u/alexan45 - 1 month
|
|Responding to texts promptly is NOT REQUIRED
|u/obxtalldude - 1 month
|
|Tailgating. I don't care how slow the guy in the left lane is going -
|flash your lights. Using your car to intimidate should be illegal.
|It's just too dangerous.
|u/WorldTravelerKevin - 1 month
|
|It’s illegal in most places, but since it’s never enforced unless
|there is an accident, no one cares.
|u/litapita23 - 1 month
|
|How rowdy kids are allowed to run around unsupervised in restaurants,
|break things in stores, or throw extreme tantrums in public and we are
|are supposed to be ok with it because they are “just kids”
|u/tanser - 1 month
|
|Phones at the table. We’re out at the restaurant/wherever to be social
|and catch up. I don’t want or need to go on a date with your phone.
|Whatever it is, I’m sure it can wait.
|u/No_Lack_7636 - 1 month
|
|When you’re out, whether that be out for a meal, shopping, doing some
|kind of activity and spending most of the time on your phone. Can’t
|you do that when you’re at home?
|u/xoxomaxine - 1 month
|
|Tipping even when service wasn’t received. I just got into a
|discussion with a friend about this. I went to a restaurant and was
|hardly served. There was cups and a carafe of water already at the
|table, QR code to order and pay, you sit wherever it’s open. The only
|time a worker came was to tell me about the QR code and drop off my
|food. I didn’t believe a 20% tip was deserved, my friend argued that
|the staff depends on it and I need to consider the person bussing the
|table and cooks in the back. They said if I won’t pay the 20% tip then
|I shouldn’t eat there. Tipping annoys me
|u/AintShitAunty - 1 month
|
|All of that is work that the owner is requiring of them. The owner
|should pay them fair wages. It’s all so stupid!!
|u/Ok_Possible_3066 - 1 month
|
|Filming at a concert. Nothing looks dumber than when you're standing
|still, cell phone in the air trying to hold it steady filming the
|band/singer. I'm sorry but watching that later you know it's garbage.
|Concerts are special moments not to be repeated, just stay in the g-d
|moment and put your phone down. It's going to be ok.
|u/KaiJonez - 1 month
|
|"When are you having kids?"
|u/millchar22 - 1 month
|
|i hate how its still just assumed that everyone’s goal in life is to
|get married and have kids, and if its not (or if its on a different
|timeline) they feel sorry for you.
|u/SolaraOne - 1 month
|
|People using their cell phones in social settings, ignoring the people
|around them.
|u/Mamanbanane - 1 month
|
|Spitting on the ground. Just no.
|u/senapnisse - 1 month
|
|Visiting people without calling first.
|u/Heavenly_Nostrils8 - 1 month
|
|Yep! I had a family member show up on my doorstep one day for a
|“visit,” like he had done me a favor by coming to see me. Expected me
|to house and feed him and his two kids for a few days
|u/doughboy1001 - 1 month
|
|Wow I thought you meant like just for an afternoon to catch up.
|That seems weird today but years ago was pretty common. Doing a
|“pop-in” for overnight stays is crazy.
|u/Mamanbanane - 1 month
|
|I agree. Not even my mom. Please tell me ahead of time.
|u/Mamanbanane - 1 month
|
|FaceTiming in public
|u/dawnhulio - 1 month
|
|On this subject: Facetiming while DRIVING. I see this crap all the
|time. Phone in one hand, you can see who they’re talking to, their
|other hand on the wheel… NOT paying attention to the fact they are
|steering thousands of pounds down the wrong side of the street.
|Get. Off. Your. Fucking. Phone. Asshat.
|u/an_ineffable_plan - 1 month
|
|Listening to respond, not to hear. I struggle with this as a ND person,
|but after being subjected to it from so many people, I’m putting in
|effort to be better. Asking a follow-up question shows you’re paying
|attention. Just going “oh cool, now let me go on this tangent about
|something I think relates to that” shows you’re not.
|u/puledrotauren - 1 month
|
|something that has caught on where I live is 'have a blessed day'. I
|don't know why but it makes me cringe every time someone says that.
|u/daniipants - 1 month
|
|Ugh. In the same vein- I had three miscarriages and then had twins.
|Nearly every. single. medical professional that I interacted with and
|knew my medical history made some comment to the effect of “he knew
|your troubles and now you’re blessed with two!” Not only are my
|husband and I atheist, but how presumptuous to imply that our pain
|was somehow made ‘worth it’ because god decided enough was enough and
|blessed us with two babies at once. 🙄 go ahead and keep your
|blessings lol, I’ll just keep taking the good with the bad and try to
|focus on the good, because that’s just how life goes.
|u/drewbs86 - 1 month
|
|It's tough. I have a friend who gets ghosted regularly. He complains
|and I agree it's rude. At the same time I also think that he
|wouldn't be able to face honest feedback, and they probably read
|that. But the cycle continues because without that feedback he's
|probably not clear on where he's going wrong.
|u/fire_breathing_bear - 1 month
|
|I got choked up during the Olympics and finally decided that I’m a
|grown man who enjoys his emotions and the world can piss off if they
|don’t like that.
|u/TheCompoundingGod - 1 month
|
|Tipping. Just pay everyone a fair wage! Why am I expected to fill the
|gap?
|u/DucktapeCorkfeet - 1 month
|
|Drinking to excess/binge drinking. Drink/drug driving seems pretty
|acceptable from the number I see doing it…..and on that point - mobile
|phones!!!!!
|u/LovelyMetalhead - 1 month
|
|Specifically when people smoke at bus stops, right next to the other
|people who have to wait there. Move downwind with the cancer stick,
|please.
|u/outw_mybootson - 1 month
|
|Poorly behaved dogs.
|u/pookie74 - 1 month
|
|Small talk but ESPECIALLY during a transaction.  Look, I'm just trying
|to pay for my stuff. You don't care about how I'm doing, anymore than I
|care about how you're doing. A hello, and thank you are plenty. 
|u/pinkthreadedwrist - 1 month
|
|This one varies for me. Cashiers are people too and they shouldn't
|have to pretend to be robots for their whole shift and not say
|anything at all. On the other hand, if someone doesn't want to talk,
|they should take the hint.  Some people are just TOO chatty
|altogether, too. There's a guy I avoid at my dispensary because he'll
|talk for like 20 minutes and I just want to leave!
|u/MjhCarissa - 1 month
|
|Fair, but a cashier's life is pretty crap and whenever I start up a
|small conversation with them you can see it lights up their day.
|Kindness never hurt anyone. Especially in this isolated shithole.
|u/Aloysyus - 1 month
|
|I don't ask them stuff like "How was your day?" but i never miss a
|chance to make a joke or two with them. Sometimes they serve me the
|opportunity on a silver platter with a funny comment or sth. I like
|it.
|u/thrrrrooowmeee - 1 month
|
|my mother cares, lol. sometimes she calls me while talking to her
|favorite cashiers, she knows everything about them and looks forward
|to these little interactions. it is normal to reach out to people we
|are a society, maybe not all the time especially with cashiers you
|don’t know well. also? cashiers are people and maybe some people do
|care lol. i’ve worked in restaurants and i do care about my clients!
|u/NoStill3968 - 1 month
|
|Tipping everywhere! I don’t mind tipping the server who serves me, but
|I hate the guilt trap for tipping the person who pours my black coffee
|in a cup.
|u/xCrazy- - 1 month
|
|Children without manners
|u/WaySavvyD - 1 month
|
|Blowing out birthday candles; like okay, now that I've spit all over
|this cake, here, have some!
|u/Dismal-Fig2210 - 1 month
|
|Being late or chewing with your mouth open
|u/catopixel - 1 month
|
|Waking up to work on computers early in the office, I know some
|companies really needs people there, but I could easily do my job from
|my home, I would save like 1:30h of sleep. At least let us start to
|work later on haha.
|u/natalie209 - 1 month
|
|How many times friends cancel plans. My mum said growing up that if you
|made a plan with someone, you had to stick to it because you couldn’t
|get hold of them. With everyone pretty much having a mobile phone,
|it’s too easy for people to cancel plans or just not reply and then
|pretend that they were ill
|u/Wrong-Excitement - 1 month
|
|People watching videos or playing music on their device at full volume
|in public. Maybe second, is the person on speaker phone so we can all
|hear how their baby mama wants them to pay child support.
|u/Snadadap - 1 month
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|Maybe not everyone accepts but many people seem to do it to me I post
|a link to something and then they ask me questions about it, when all
|the info they want is in the link
|u/Substantial_Belt_143 - 1 month
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|Gossipping. I work in a barbershop and as soon as one coworker starts
|talking bad about a client, everyone else chimes in with stories of
|their bad clients. In front of guests. It's just unprofessional imo and
|leaves a bad taste in my mouth. I usually don't participate or try to
|tell positive stories.
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