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What are signs that you might not be as attractive as you believe?
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|u/HiVi48 - 1 month
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|Target checkout cameras.
|u/IconicGod94 - 1 month
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|You think those are bad, check yourself out in their changing room
|mirrors, talk about a dose of reality
|u/Comfortable-Guide683 - 1 month
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|I had the breakdown. I was PMS'ing so already not feeling hot,
|and then went thrifting bc I was in a new city and always try to
|hit the shops in new places. Biggest mistake of the entire trip
|u/Ok-Following-5001 - 1 month
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|Same lmaooo😭😭 f you Target haha
|u/Ok_Entrance4289 - 1 month
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|It’s bizarre to me that retail shops are generally unconcerned with
|the lighting in changing rooms. Wouldn’t they sell more if they
|designed it to be flattering?
|u/SCUBA-SAVVY - 1 month
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|You would think!
|u/OpenBack7266 - 1 month
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|I know target used to, if not still, has mirrors that make your
|body look skinnier so you buy their clothing.
|u/Quirky_Safe4790 - 1 month
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|You have to be skinny to shop there. Their clothes don't come
|in my size.
|u/MacDhomhnuill - 1 month
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|Especially when they have diagonal mirrors so you can see yourself
|from a weird angle. Distilled psychic damage.
|u/cinnamongirl444 - 1 month
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|H&M mirrors too
|u/UVwraith - 1 month
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|I do not even bother looking anymore, I don’t need that kind of
|negativity in my life lol
|u/random_boss - 1 month
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|Interesting I always thought I looked great in those (but never in
|iPhone cameras 🤷)
|u/rachel-karen-green- - 1 month
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|Oh, so I actually am ugly then…
|u/space_acee - 1 month
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|Nah fam. Very few people are truly ugly. It’s really all about
|health, hygiene & confidence more than any objective genetic
|metric. Everyone looks like ass ham in target cameras. It’s
|terrible lighting, lens and resolution. Plus we fixate on our
|imperfections while other people view your entirety.
|u/ADHDbroo - 1 month
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|Ehhh not neccesarily. Those actually distort you and enlong you super
|hard. I wouldn't say those are the best to look at to judge your
|attractiveness. Plus it's usually from a downward angle. Id say if
|you're flat out ugly in those then maybe it can indicate something,
|but if you look off I would try to see other ways to guess your
|attractiveness
|u/Jappie_nl - 1 month
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|When little children openly call you ugly
|u/graveybrains - 1 month
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|What does it mean when they just like, stare at you? Like every
|random kid I see gives me 😳 and I don’t know what it means.
|u/tournamentdecides - 1 month
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|You probably have a unique feature they’ve never seen before. Kids
|tend to have pretty limited world views
|u/SomePumpkin6850 - 1 month
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|Piercings-haver here. You'd think I was an alien
|u/Spiderbanana - 1 month
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|Bald with big beard confuses them too
|u/FartSmellrxxx - 1 month
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|Hahaha, my kid told my dad his hair was upside down once.
|He’s bald w/beard.
|u/Lead-Forsaken - 1 month
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|Wearing a hat and sunglasses against the sun as well.
|u/Toby_O_Notoby - 1 month
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|I have a shaved head. I once walked past a woman and her
|toddler and when he was about five steps away he loudly
|told her "That boy look funny with no hair!" She turned
|around mortified to see if I heard but I was cracking up so
|hard she ended up laughing along.
|u/Olives_And_Cheese - 1 month
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|Lol that'll depend on the kid - my husband has a big, bushy
|beard. To my kid, boy = beard, girl = no beard. So
|beardless men are endlessly confusing to her. 'Girl-boy?'
|u/LuminaL_IV - 1 month
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|"If no hair... then why hair?"
|u/coralloohoo - 1 month
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|A friend's kid was OBSESSED with my lip ring from the time
|she was a baby. Once she figured out how to talk, the first
|question she asked me was "what's that?!" 🤣
|u/Brights- - 1 month
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|My sheltered 5-year-old niece saw my belly ring for the first
|time and could not comprehend. Her poor little brain was
|trying so hard 😂
|u/Chemical_Carpenter56 - 1 month
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|I remember looking at my baby photos and I guess I was
|confused at his my dad looked and I was crawling over his
|belly a lot and probably confused on how my dad is that
|big.
|u/shallowjalapeno - 1 month
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|i dont have kids but my sister has 4. my reflexes improved
|*greatly* when they started reaching for my septum ring
|u/MjauDuuude - 1 month
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|I dress alternatively and used to clean at daycares. One time I
|walked into a room a bit earlier than normal and everyone was
|just quiet and staring at me so I thought I'd interrupted
|something and left. Later one of the teachers stopped and
|thanked me, apparently there had been absolute chaos with
|screaming kids and no one listening until I walked in and
|everyone went quiet 😂😂
|u/fuzzyeats - 1 month
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|Love me a ginger!!!
|u/Amazingggcoolaid - 1 month
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|I’m Asian with coloured hair and they’ve always stared heavily.
|When I was in my country and didn’t have coloured hair they also
|stared at me hard - one time the parent had to shake the baby
|because it wouldn’t stop staring at me
|u/Opening-Comfort-3996 - 1 month
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|I went to visit a friend who was Thai, and a large chunk of
|family were visiting from home, including a toddler, who had
|obviously never seen a white person before. We all thought it was
|hilarious.
|u/Hot_Commission_7621 - 1 month
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|Psychologically speaking, they usually think you’re
|pretty/beautiful or handsome!
|u/graveybrains - 1 month
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|I’d assume if I were pretty they’d smile or laugh or something,
|but they always just stare. No smile, no frown, no nothing. 🤷‍♂️
|u/Routine_Instance_678 - 1 month
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|My little one does that exactly as you describe. Kids are not
|judgemental they are just curious about the world and the
|different people within. They are too young to think in
|categories like adults do.
|u/Hot_Commission_7621 - 1 month
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|My point remains the same based on psychology! They literally
|just stare sometimes at those people lol
|u/graveybrains - 1 month
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|I hope you’re right 😁
|u/Zukez - 1 month
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|I have 3 small children and it doesn't mean anything. Mostly it
|means they have never seen you before. Or they think you're cool.
|Or they think you're a new kind of person. Or you remind them of
|someone. Or your hat is their favourite colour. Literally anything.
|u/imstillapenguin - 1 month
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|When I was 13, I used to go over to my friend's house a lot. She
|had a little sister about 7 years old. She would give me that stare
|the whole time we were in the same room. When my friend noticed,
|she straight up asked her why she was staring at me like that. All
|she said was "she's so beautiful"
|u/graveybrains - 1 month
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|That’s adorable 🥰
|u/sir_kiwii - 1 month
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|Apparently babies look away from ugly faces and stare more at
|conventionally attractive ones, at least that's what I was told
|once. Not sure if this is true.
|u/Mrinconsequential - 1 month
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|Oh my god,i exactly get the same,so much it gets creepy at some
|point,like they stare at my soul or something 😭😭
|u/First-Track-9564 - 1 month
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|They probably looking thinking "That guy seems like he has gravy
|brains".
|u/CrazyElk123 - 1 month
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|You dont happen to have a beard? Some younger kids give me
|deathstares. Probably doesnt help my eyebrows are very bushy as
|well...
|u/a_3ft_giant - 1 month
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|Stick your tongue out at them, real quick before anyone sees. Kids
|go nuts for that shit. Or flip em off. Same thing.
|u/Aware-Experience-277 - 1 month
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|Used to work with little kids, yeah most likely they're curious
|about something lol Will also say that kids call random people
|ugly/fat/whatever all the time and you should only believe it if
|you get it consistently
|u/rpodnee - 1 month
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|It could actually mean you're good looking.
|u/Accidental_Taco - 1 month
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|My favorite is how no child fails to point out baldness
|u/Minimum-Interview800 - 1 month
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|I'm a kindergarten parapro, and today, the kids were drawing
|pictures of their families. One little girl yelled out, "my dad is
|bald!"
|u/Accidental_Taco - 1 month
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|I see my nephew once a week and it's the same routine every time.
|Freak out that I'm there, big hug then "look at you balding
|head!". Kid's lucky he's 3 and adorable.
|u/billy_twice - 1 month
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|In 50 years, joke will be on him.
|u/mellofello7 - 1 month
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|😂 That’s awesome. My mom still hangs up pictures that my
|siblings and I drew as kids, several of which are depictions of
|our family. The funniest ones are framed in her kitchen
|u/HippieGrandma1962 - 1 month
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|You should grasp your head and exclaim, "Oh no! What happened to my
|hair?!"
|u/kylemcgreg - 1 month
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|My niece asked me if I’m a loser once, literally like 10 years ago
|and it still hits me from time to time!
|u/HippieGrandma1962 - 1 month
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|A boy called me ugly in 3rd grade and I'm still not over it.
|u/kylemcgreg - 1 month
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|Bastards, all of em
|u/Olives_And_Cheese - 1 month
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|A kid once said I had princess hair, and I've been riding high on
|that for the last 10 years. ... Those little bastards say it like it
|is. The thing is now I don't want another one to decimate that high,
|so I avoid them 😂
|u/Ray3369 - 1 month
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|A mom once came up to me with her daughter standing behind her. The
|mom said she wanted to talk to me but was shy, because I looked
|like one of the mermaids from a show she watches. Been riding that
|high for a while too lol.
|u/Beckistoner - 1 month
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|LOL I’m blonde with glasses, and a mum once brought her little
|blonde-with-glasses girl up to me at work and told me her
|daughter wanted to look like me when she was older. So cute! And
|I’ll never get that high back again 😂
|u/notjustanotherdino - 1 month
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|My 9 year old tells me every day she hopes she looks like me when
|she grows up as I look like Mermaid Barbie. I don't like my looks
|but her comments always give me a high
|u/nepheleene - 1 month
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|A kid in class once told me that I look like an angel and I think
|about that all the time haha Of course I thought of the human
|version of an angel with like golden hair and wings and all but
|maybe she meant the biblically accurate version now that I think
|about it 😂
|u/CougheyToffee - 1 month
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|They call everyone that, though lol. I worked in elementary ed for
|years. Those kids will see even the most attractive person, find one
|thing thay stands out and go "why is (that part of you that stands
|out) so ugly?" Or "whays wrong with (that part of you)?" Its just how
|they learn, honestly. Someone teaches them the word "ugly" and so
|they use it for anything that stands out as different. Ooooorrrrr...
|you got a paper bag face, for real 🤣
|u/ChemistForeign2590 - 1 month
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|My sister has a moderately sized brown mole on her neck. My kids
|would say “Ewe auntie what’s that?”Point at it then bite their
|finger. She would say “It’s my mole” they would say “EWE auntie”
|she would say “you want to touch it?” lol they would freak out and
|run off 🤣
|u/onesmilematters - 1 month
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|I have a small mole directly below my nose. You can probably
|imagine kids' reaction to *that*.
|u/casaco37 - 1 month
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|You just reminded me of those little bastards
|u/diabolicalmonocle369 - 1 month
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|Kids are brutal man 💀
|u/EmbellishedKnocking - 1 month
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|unfiltered and ruthless, but kinda hilarious.
|u/ultimatepupper909 - 1 month
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|One day I walked into a classroom (I work in schools) and a little
|girl looked at me wide eyed and said "you're so pretty!". It made my
|entire week and I've been riding that high ever since
|u/UltimateWaluigi - 1 month
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|Without info, people assume you're single.
|u/marsmedia - 1 month
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|Or the occasional "That's your WIFE?" with a vague element of her
|being out of my league.
|u/SavageDuckling - 1 month
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|I’m a solid 6.5, 7 on the best days. Pulled a 9.5 in college on her
|worst day. Throughout my college career I made probably ~$200
|and/or several free rounds of shots/drinks by being in a bar away
|from her, making friends with random dudes and after 5 mins be like
|“yo bro I bet I can approach that girl and get her to kiss me.”
|Usually followed by “lmao bro not a chance, I’ll take that bet.” It
|was awesome to see their faces every time it worked. That and
|dudes would blatantly approach her with a shot or drink they’d buy
|her while we were sitting together. Of course they were oblivious
|because why would she be with him, and she’d say thanks and smile
|and hand me the drink in front of them that I’d take while they
|looked in disbelief lol
|u/uttermybiscuit - 1 month
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|She sounds great. I know it's not really relevant but I gotta
|ask, what happened that the relationship ended?
|u/SavageDuckling - 1 month
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|She didn’t grow up outside of college, we dated for a year or
|two after and she refused to get a full time job; move out of
|her parents etc so I ended it after a few conversations and no
|change
|u/TheGangstaGandalf - 1 month
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|That's very mature of you. I've known people that have stuck
|themselves in relationships like that for the worst reasons.
|I hope you find someone with ambitions that can complement
|yours.
|u/SavageDuckling - 1 month
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|It sucked in the moment but needed to happen. It’s been
|about 6 years since then and I still have her added on
|socials. She’s seemingly gone nowhere and still lives at
|home unfortunately, I hope she can progress eventually
|u/fuzzyeats - 1 month
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|Consider the possibility that she is perfectly happy!;
|different strokes for different folks!!
|u/ImNotSelling - 1 month
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|Maybe she has severe anxiety like the debilitating kind
|u/Cuck_Boy - 1 month
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|That’s what my masseuse says
|u/Vonarum - 1 month
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|Pretty much depends on the size of the vessel occluded
|or presence of collaterals!
|u/joedotphp - 1 month
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|>She didn’t grow up outside of college I don't think people
|understand how common this is.
|u/MrHmuriy - 1 month
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|No more free shots :(
|u/willvolvo240 - 1 month
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|This reminds me of when I met up with an ex after not seeing them
|for years. I used to be pretty good looking before I got sick and
|this woman was probably the best looking person I ever dated.
|Unfortunately I went through a rough couple years and looked like
|crap when I reunited with her a few years later. We meet up,
|she's a bit disappointed that I've lost my looks and weigh about
|an extra fifty pounds but oh well. Fast forward and we're at a
|bar in Brooklyn later that night with about eight of her friends
|for an engagement party. I leave the group for a bit and sit
|down at the bar. She walks up with a friend and I try to say hi
|but she thinks I'm just a random creep and ignores me. The
|bartender laughs and tells me no way in hell a woman like that
|would talk to a guy like me. He walks away and I go sit down
|next to her at the table, some time passes and the bartender
|comes out sees her laughing and smiling at me, points to me and
|says something like "this guy right here is the man! I don't know
|how he did it but what a guy" and then proceeds to give everyone
|a free round and a free bottle of champagne. Only time in my
|life where I felt like an accidental con man.
|u/Rich_Manufacturer_38 - 1 month
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|I'm confused. Later that night she doesn't know who you are at
|the bar and then remembers when you go their table?
|u/Benjaphar - 1 month
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|And then everyone clapped
|u/Halflife37 - 1 month
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|Lit, what ended things? 
|u/Dagglin - 1 month
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|I accidentally said that to my boss once. She ended up sleeping
|with another coworker who was even dopier looking than he was
|u/Satanic_Earmuff - 1 month
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|At least she's not superficial.
|u/IGotAFatRooster - 1 month
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|She is certainly not about her bag.
|u/Wrong-Landscape-2508 - 1 month
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|I can never tell if the doubt is because she’s out of my league or
|because we’re in an interracial marriage.
|u/oneraildave31805 - 1 month
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|I've heard that ALOT in the 20+ years my wife have been together.
|I'm just glad she never bought into that
|u/DCFud - 1 month
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|No, that just means they aren't socially intelligent.
|u/ThrowRA-NuName - 1 month
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|Yesterday at the barber, the dude cutting my hair asumed i only payed
|for sex, as i looked older than him. It really offended me and made
|me feel ugly and old. F-\*k that dude...
|u/snackshack - 1 month
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|"Every once in a while, your mom throws me a freebie."
|u/Jah_Ith_Ber - 1 month
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|You would think a barber gets enough practice at small talk that he
|could not fuck up that badly.
|u/BowdleizedBeta - 1 month
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|How did that come up in conversation? Did he ask for provider
|suggestions or what? Ugh, I wouldn’t like anyone assuming that
|about me either. Sorry that happened
|u/ThrowRA-NuName - 1 month
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|I don't know, i really don't like small talk and I avoid it at
|all costs, specially at the barber... The dude asked if I
|was gonna 'go get some girls' after the haircut, and I said no, I
|literally just said "Dude, it's Tuesday and I just got here from
|work..." Then he proceeded to say "Yeah, wait till Thursday
|when the money comes, and you could get 1 or 2 girls for the
|weekend..." I just looked at him through the mirror and didn't
|say anything, but i was really offended by that... like, dude
|assumed I was single and I needed to pay for sex... I don't know,
|that really did hurt somewhat...
|u/BowdleizedBeta - 1 month
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|Ugh. I hear you. Sometimes you just want to sit there quietly
|and have them tidy up your head. I always worry it’ll offend
|them, though. I see a lady and she’s really nice and has kids,
|so I ask her about her kids and then shut up and listen to her
|stories. Any chance your guy was low key telling you how he
|spends his time and money? Or was it definitely an assumption
|about you?
|u/opalthecat - 1 month
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|Honestly sounds like he was telling on himself with that one
|u/__Z__ - 1 month
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|Wow what an asshole
|u/MattyIce1220 - 1 month
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|Reminds me of high school. We had a sub and he went around guessing
|who had a date to the prom. 
|u/IGotAFatRooster - 1 month
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|I really hope that dude is not teaching anymore. Fucking weirdo
|u/Reasonable-Wing-2271 - 1 month
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|Chaotic Neutral
|u/Doomsday_Taco_ - 1 month
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|and worse, when people ask "do you have a friend, sibling, cousin or
|know anyone who's single?"
|u/BigBlueTimeMachine - 1 month
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|I'd say that's more of a sign that someone finds you attractive,
|assumes you're taken and is wondering if there is somebody in your
|family that has similar features that is available.
|u/happilyeverhotwife - 1 month
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|All of the above can be true but this is such a fucking awkward
|question can we abolish it 💀
|u/Ellola2 - 1 month
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|Brutally true
|u/Serious_Hearing5863 - 1 month
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|Huh? I always assume everyone is single unless told otherwise or saw
|a ring on their finger.
|u/sheepnwolf89 - 1 month
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|I'm sorry but this made me laugh 🤣
|u/Mithrandir_The_Gray - 1 month
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|Ouch
|u/Substantial-Rub1571 - 1 month
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|You have to make a certain face when you look in the mirror.
|u/Mesmerotic31 - 1 month
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|This is absolutely me. If I set my face just right I'm stunning. I
|look absolutely fabulous in selfies. But if I catch myself in a
|mirror unposed, I am the lipless wonder with two different sizes of
|eyes and a crooked jaw. And let's not talk about candid photos
|u/Spiritual_Edge_5577 - 1 month
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|You see I’m the opposite. I only look good in my most neutral brain
|dead zero thoughts face possible. Any sort of expression makes be
|look gross
|u/igneostic - 1 month
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|Sameeee, maybe not gross but smiling in pictures makes me look so
|goofy I always end up saying something like ‘why do I look so
|happy’ 💀
|u/punk_salad - 1 month
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|I love this trait in a person tho! The happiest looking person
|in a pic looks the best to me
|u/Adept-Gur-1726 - 1 month
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|Are you a guy? Just curious. I feel like guys look better from a
|neutral facial expression.
|u/Possible_Ad8529 - 1 month
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|Bro I cannot look at candid photos of myself or I will cry
|u/mamaferal - 1 month
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|Catching a glimpse of my face looking down at my phone is always
|humbling. 😆
|u/latinaprinsessa - 1 month
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|When I take my own pictures I feel pretty. When others do I feel
|like sloth from the goonies
|u/junkevin - 1 month
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|lol I’m the opposite. I only have good candid pictures. Any time I
|try to pose for the camera or selfie I look like a troll
|u/No_Percentage_1265 - 1 month
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|Photos always do me dirty 😭
|u/l4dylazarus - 1 month
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|I actually lightly disagree with this. Knowing your angles is why
|modeling is a job and not any hot person can do it. To a certain
|extent I think you’re right. But everyoneeee has bad candid angles in
|the mirror or on camera
|u/potatodrinker - 1 month
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|Good lighting plays a large role in looking good. Angle, softness,
|colour temperature all can elevate mediocre to stunning or vice
|versa when the lighting sucks
|u/ChemistForeign2590 - 1 month
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|🤣 I had a mentor recommend paying attention to my resting bitch face
|lmao
|u/paulruddsrightnipple - 1 month
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|My friends told me that nobody approaches me at bars (or in any
|public space, really) because I have a "judgy, arrogant resting
|bitch face." I didn't quite believe it until I saw myself in the
|back of a candid pic, and boy howdy they were correct!
|u/dumplingmami - 1 month
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|I too, am a chronic sufferer of resting bitch face 😂
|u/jvnya - 1 month
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|Dude, I never had it before but I literally haven’t laughed or
|smiled as much as I used to and now I have an RBF. Like I barely
|even laugh or smile at anything anymore. Right now I’m literally
|RBF 😭😭
|u/WhiteningMcClean - 1 month
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|Fuuuuuuuck
|u/WrongdoerEmotional47 - 1 month
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|Ouch!
|u/MedBenDj - 1 month
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|Wow ok you opened my eyes! Thank you and go to hell! Hahaha
|u/antiquatedsheep - 1 month
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|On a similar train... Beautiful people look in the mirror and see
|themselves, others think of the reflection as someone else. .
|u/Kooky-Onion9203 - 1 month
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|I identify with both of these, just depends on the day.
|u/thanksyalll - 1 month
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|That just sounds like your situation because I’ve met beautiful
|people who dissociate from their appearance and very grounded
|people who aren’t conventionally attractive
|u/finite_processor - 1 month
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|I feel called out
|u/iceplusfire - 1 month
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|ive straight been told by an ex, "you aren't hot enough to be this
|much of an asshole" So that I guess.
|u/Thick_Scientist_4838 - 1 month
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|Damn man. When someone tells you that you gotta believe it
|u/BoshraExists - 1 month
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|No level of hotness could forgive being an asshole
|u/Hour_Insurance_7795 - 1 month
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|This. Even the best looking person on Earth becomes old hat if
|you see them all the time (I.e. in a relationship). Your
|personality and the way you love your life is ultimately what
|carries the day, not your looks.
|u/bigtinyroom - 1 month
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|Ouch that sucks and all, but damn that's a sick burn.
|u/Sunday_Friday - 1 month
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|Aren’t hot enough implies still hot to some degree though
|u/arxu0304 - 1 month
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|A win is a win
|u/justanother_drone - 1 month
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|You could just be an unrivalled asshole though. Very hot, just 1000%
|cunt. Ya know? You're welcome.
|u/faustothekinggg - 1 month
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|Or u just an asshole? :thinking:
|u/PenUpstairs9169 - 1 month
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|Haha I’ve heard this from so many random girls in high school
|although I’ve stopped hearing it now as an adult. Either I became
|stopped being an asshole or I’m hotter haha.
|u/JCinta13 - 1 month
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|Ha. I have said this to bad Tinder dates before. More than once.
|u/the_third_lebowski - 1 month
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|I've met gorgeous people like that. Is it possible you're attractive
|but just a really huge asshole? Or that they're wrong.
|u/Mr_Mediator - 1 month
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|Nobody looks at you or acknowledges you. If you don’t insert yourself
|into social situations you aren’t seen unless someone needs something
|from you.
|u/HippieGrandma1962 - 1 month
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|I can relate. That was my life. And now I'm a woman over 50 so I'm
|basically invisible. Actually, I'm over 60 but the invisibility began
|at 50.
|u/fuzzyeats - 1 month
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|I find being 60+ very liberating! I talk to anyone!! And 24 yo guys
|will talk to for an hour. I'm friendly and sophisticated. It's
|great fun with little pressure.
|u/findlefas - 1 month
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|I love talking to women 60+. There is no like underlying sexual
|tension which messes stuff up. 
|u/lestacobouti - 1 month
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|You sure? Lol
|u/findlefas - 1 month
|
|At least in my side haha
|u/HippieGrandma1962 - 1 month
|
|I agree. There's a tech in his 30's at work and we have some
|great conversations. When my son was young he would say, "Mom,
|you talk to *everybody*" and I do. I'm also very friendly.
|u/MysteriousTouch1192 - 1 month
|
|Amen. Love a worldly woman for a chat
|u/happilyeverhotwife - 1 month
|
|As a plus size woman, I feel the same way. I have ~this ~ profile
|but I get zero attention in public and very much feel invisible
|u/CruiseLifeNE - 1 month
|
|I was going to say - this is life as a woman post 50. 99% of the
|time, truly freeing. 1% of the time, you're pissed off because you
|actually need help/service and are ignored/passed over.
|u/sneaky_pasta_snake - 1 month
|
|You must have been/still are absolutely gorgeous. I turned
|invisible three years ago when I turned 32. One day I was being
|chatted up at airports, the next day I was *poof* gone. Nothing
|happened to me (except maybe I gained a teeny bit of weight) but
|yeah, it's wild. Having to adjust to it has been very very hard but
|I'm doing my best to just take really good care of myself and my
|mental health and acknowledge that unfortunately it happens to all
|women at a certain age. Everyday we breathe in the smog of the
|patriarchy!
|u/acu101 - 1 month
|
|I’m a man, but I’m hoping this applies to anyone. When Covid
|started I was fifty and I weighed about 260 lbs at 5’9”. My
|daughter bought me a mountain bike from like Academy or Walmart so
|I could go bike riding with her and my grandson. Where I live it’s
|extremely hilly so no one rides bikes - it’s really no fun. So our
|bike riding plans didn’t go well except I took up mountain/trail
|riding and got a membership to planet fitness after Covid. I’m down
|to about 213 lbs. and I’ve muscled up. I’ve bought all new clothes.
|I’m starting to not be invisible anymore and I’ve noticed I get
|much more attention from the opposite sex. Longer smiles, more
|smaller conversations. I was even asked by an old customer if I was
|still married. Anyway, I just wanted to let you know that it wasn’t
|easy and I’m still motivated to get in to even better shape. I’ve
|got aches and pains that I did but have as a young man, but they’re
|worth it to me. I feel better. My confidence is bolstered every
|time a lady smiles at me that I just didn’t get before. Part of my
|motivation is to be here on this planet longer to see grand babies,
|weddings, college graduations, etc. BTW, I really only desire the
|attention of one woman. Edit: I’m diabetic so there’s that for my
|motivation, too. I keep my before picture that I’ve downloaded from
|Facebook on my phone for motivation
|u/Dr_Spiders - 1 month
|
|I have found the invisibility to be underrated.
|u/BenderBRoriguezzzzz - 1 month
|
|Oh man, if that is something that upsets you, I'm so sorry. But
|honestly, that sounds absolutely amazing. To be able to just go on
|about your day without being bothered. Noticed only when you make
|it a point to. I'm very antisocial, and that just sounds marvelous.
|But then again, here we are on reddit, and I'm acknowledging you. I
|hope you have a wonderful week, by the way.
|u/joedotphp - 1 month
|
|My line for that is, "God and me have a lot in common. For example,
|people only talk to me when they need something."
|u/throw_datwey - 1 month
|
|Genius
|u/Fluffernutter80 - 1 month
|
|This has been me my whole life. It can be nice when you don’t feel
|like engaging with people.
|u/Chisto23 - 1 month
|
|This isn't a look thing it's a personality thing with a mix of facial
|expression, if people feel uncomfortable conversing with you and
|including you it's NOT because of looks it's how you present
|yourself. It says a lot because you can be ugly as shit and have a
|joyful outgoing not looking bored or mean face type personality and
|people will always like to involve you.
|u/passthedrink - 1 month
|
|Always being told you look tired
|u/Spare_Delivery_6939 - 1 month
|
|Imagine getting this comment after you had a good 8-9 hours of sleep
|and put some light make up on feeling refreshed af, must’ve happened
|to me 2-3x in my life. Lmao. Just had to pretend that I actually was
|tired
|u/tamxii - 1 month
|
|Felt this! I laugh it off but it lowkey hurts looool
|u/fuzzyeats - 1 month
|
|Come on man put on a little under eye makeup and perk up a bit!!
|u/blabla_blablabla - 1 month
|
|I get this almost everyday. Like yeah i get it, you told me a
|million times and also i do have mirrors
|u/anymbryne - 1 month
|
|Received that comment several times when I was working onsite lol
|u/godverdejezushey - 1 month
|
|I get this a lot actually. Oof.
|u/WrongdoerEmotional47 - 1 month
|
|Always being told u look sad ( i have a cry face)
|u/BuddyOptimal4971 - 1 month
|
|Have you tried yoga [WrongdoerEmotional47](https://www.reddit.com/u
|ser/WrongdoerEmotional47/)? Start a conversation while standing on
|your head and people will think that you're smiling. See if they
|treat you different. And if they do, you know its you that needs
|to change.
|u/SnooOnions7016 - 1 month
|
|THIS! I typically get about 7-8 hours of sleep, but ever since I was
|a kid I’ve always had dark circles under my eyes and when I get 1
|night of bad sleep, it makes it worse. I had a guy at an old church
|say, “You look terrible,” when he saw how bad my dark circles could
|get. That’s always a nice thing to hear lol Also, yes I drink plenty
|of water, get good sleep, and tried products to help minimize them,
|but I haven’t found anything that works, so if you have any ideas,
|let me know!
|u/SPriplup - 1 month
|
|Dark circles might be genetic for you if you’ve had them as a kid.
|Some people naturally lack volume under their eyes, and no topical
|agent can fix that. If there’s a lack of volume, there’s going to
|be a shadow that’s cast under the eyes
|u/lXPROMETHEUSXl - 1 month
|
|I mean people tell me this regularly, but I have severe insomnia. I
|always have them raccoon eyes. I still get compliments though
|u/Jessica_Lovegood - 1 month
|
|Okay, now I’m hurt I get this veryyyyy often… and by my boyfriend.
|At least he claims he likes it when I’m at my most panda like
|appearance 😅
|u/CompleteAd898 - 1 month
|
|Every time I dyed my hair red, someone would randomly tell me I
|looked tired. That's how I figured out red was not my color
|u/beccacee - 1 month
|
|Feeling like a ghost.
|u/SousVideDiaper - 1 month
|
|People say when they lost weight, they noticed strangers being nicer
|to them, paying more attention, etc. ...I didn't.
|u/becca_la - 1 month
|
|Same. Lost 120lbs, but I'm still practically invisible... oh well.
|It's better than being a target of people's rude comments on my
|weight I guess.
|u/CJrules559 - 1 month
|
|At least you lost weight, right?
|u/Consumer_of_Metals - 1 month
|
|I want to see if they do, i think my face is alright and my weight
|is stopping me from being confident, although there is a chance i
|look like shit and dont know it… it is a pretty big chance…
|u/AvNerd16 - 1 month
|
|I lost about 100 pounds over about 5 years and friends that I
|hadn’t seen in a while started asking me if I was okay when they
|saw me. They started to imply I was sick or something. It was
|disappointing to have them take a negative reaction to me getting
|healthy. For reference I am now at the top end of a healthy BMI
|when previously I was obese.
|u/Zahfier - 1 month
|
|You hear, “there’s somebody out there for everyone” a lot
|u/UpbeatRacoon23 - 1 month
|
|I hate hearing this shit
|u/Anteatereatingant - 1 month
|
|"You're gonna make someone SOOOO happy One Day (just not me,
|obviously - LOL)!"
|u/findlefas - 1 month
|
|Dam haha this one should be the top 
|u/liberatedyoungfemale - 1 month
|
|My mom to me 🥲
|u/rockhardcatdick - 1 month
|
|"I don't understand why you're single, you have a great personality".
|Been here that a lot lately.
|u/2rio2 - 1 month
|
|This is an sign of being average looking. If you were especially
|attractive or unattractive people would be noticing and remembering
|you.
|u/Spicy_gender - 1 month
|
|Its my camouflage
|u/Accidental_Taco - 1 month
|
|I have fun with it in public. Like I could literally sneak around
|someone and move anything at all and they'd never know.
|u/Spicy_gender - 1 month
|
|Pro tip: Add a high vis vest to your wardrobe and you are truly
|invisible. You can go fucking anywhere.
|u/chalky331 - 1 month
|
|You can always spot a Milford man
|u/nathanhasse - 1 month
|
|Be neither seen nor heard.
|u/IGotAFatRooster - 1 month
|
|Or non approachable.
|u/Olives_And_Cheese - 1 month
|
|Or just super awkward. I was in some teen magazines back in the
|day, but people were not drawn to me in real life.
|u/ChillyAus - 1 month
|
|This
|u/ZielonyZabko - 1 month
|
|I honestly don't mind the privacy, having dealt with unwanted
|attention from an actual creep at my workplace I treasure every
|minute of peace. It's a different situation for all people I guess.
|u/rainbowroobear - 1 month
|
|automatic doors never open for you.
|u/Miseryy - 1 month
|
|both figuratively and literally
|u/Funkiebastard - 1 month
|
|Damn, thought it was because I was short and it just didn't see me
|u/zy0a - 1 month
|
|I thought it was because I sold my soul
|u/keznaa - 1 month
|
|You may not be as alive as you think you are ..... Are you a ghost?
|u/the_bird_and_the_bee - 1 month
|
|I have this problem sometimes... now I know why 😭 lol.
|u/EvolutionZEN - 1 month
|
|LOL - damnit take my upvote!
|u/Rj_eightonesix - 1 month
|
|Next time try to use the force with your hand to open it. It works
|for me every time
|u/JimmyBallocks - 1 month
|
|the stares, the screams, the vomiting, the dogs barking
|u/dustywayfarer - 1 month
|
|Deadpool?
|u/____NOTDEADPOOL____ - 1 month
|
|No
|u/lgisme333 - 1 month
|
|Best username check!
|u/SamwellBarley - 1 month
|
|Setting the sprinklers off
|u/NightDreamer73 - 1 month
|
|This made me laugh
|u/Kadie-das - 1 month
|
|Am I the only one who happens to come across this post at least once in
|three days and each time I go through the comments, I realise how ugly
|I am and it keeps getting worse every time. 😅
|u/Ima-Derpi - 1 month
|
|Not the only one! I do feel a sense of relief knowing I'm not the
|only one though.
|u/Hour_Insurance_7795 - 1 month
|
|We are all ugly. You are safe here, child :)
|u/ranoyaaljamila - 1 month
|
|Once I saw this title again I sighed then opened the comments
|u/andersonb47 - 1 month
|
|That sucks but if it makes you feel better I come to these threads
|and discover I’m apparently super hot (I’m…fine)
|u/Kadie-das - 1 month
|
|In my next life, I want to be YOU!
|u/ABluntForcedDisTrama - 1 month
|
|The algorithm trying to be honest with you
|u/ChemistForeign2590 - 1 month
|
|Damn… I’m sure you’re not as ugly as you think. Sometimes we think we
|are what we are not, then go around looking for confirmation, in so
|doing ignoring the positives as we are delusional about the idea to
|begin with. If I am ugly then it’s nothing about my behaviors or
|personality that wards off others therefore cannot do anything about
|my looks! So maybe plastic surgery… if others are still not
|interested then it’s your personality 🤣
|u/Kadie-das - 1 month
|
|I like to think I am not as bad. I do score high in other qualities
|but definitely 3/5 in the looks department. 😅
|u/123123000123 - 1 month
|
|I started a new job at the beginning of the pandemic & they required
|that we follow whatever the recommended guidelines were like all wear a
|mask. The vaccine came out & restrictions were lifted & we no longer
|had to wear masks! Yay! First day of not wearing one, a co-worker does
|a double take. I ask him what’s wrong and he says “Oh, nothing. I’m
|just surprised that that’s what you look like.” A few others also
|looked shocked & made the same comment, I look different without my
|mask. I do look a bit different than most of the people I work with &
|I would say my eyes would be my best feature. My teeth aren’t
|completely straight but I didn’t think I was ugly! Not until then. I
|really felt ugly because no one clarified if they didn’t mean it in
|that way.
|u/__Z__ - 1 month
|
|God as someone whose blue eyes and thick eyebrows are his best
|features, I totally get you. "Mask-fishing" was what they called it.
|u/RaggedyAndromeda - 1 month
|
|I met a couple of my friends for the first time when they were both
|wearing masks. I thought they were both so attractive, like power
|couple attractive. When I finally saw them without masks I was so
|surprised. I thought they were kinda reserved, strong silent types
|at first but when I saw the full face I realized they were both
|kinda awkward and nerdy. Which makes sense since we met playing
|board games. But the mask changed not only my perception of their
|appearance but also my perception of their personalities. 
|u/Dust_bunnies_unite - 1 month
|
|I really love this, it’s like your brain filling in the rest of
|their features. And since faces say so much about your
|personality and feelings it makes sense that your perception of
|them got skewed. This reminds me of people falling in love with
|people they don’t know. They’ve projected an idealized version.
|Just rarely is it as obvious a projection as well someone takes
|off a mask.
|u/Pleasant-Database970 - 1 month
|
|In Japanese it's called mask sagi (sagi = scam/scammer)
|u/timespaceoblivion - 1 month
|
|As someone who has been in the position of doing a double take, I
|doubt it’s because they think that you’re ugly. I think that you
|simply just look different BECAUSE you don’t have the mask on anymore
|and because the change is noticeable. Kind of expected tbh but humans
|are simple like that.
|u/sidewaysEntangled - 1 month
|
|Yeah this. At work I sit near two people who choose to mask up
|most of the time, have done since well before I joined . Maybe
|once a month I'll be in their vicinity when they're eating or
|drinking or something. It's happened often enough by now, but I
|still can't help but double take when I see it, there's something
|uncanny-valley about these dudes nose:chin area now. They're not
|especially odd, or good or bad looking, and the best I can come up
|with is a quirk of human brain pattern matching and facial
|recognition.. I've always known them as masked, internalised my
|mental model of them as such, and to see them otherwise is notable.
|I've at least had the good sense not to say any of this to them
|though!
|u/Top-Emotion-8687 - 1 month
|
|🫂 hugs
|u/waterfoul- - 1 month
|
|I did this to just about everybody I met during mask times at work! I
|don't think it has anything at all to do with attractiveness, I
|genuinely just made up lower halves of faces for people and was
|always stunned to see the real ones.
|u/snarksandploys - 1 month
|
|Like another commenter said; you probably just looked different, not
|ugly. Or think of it like this; the mask accentuated your MOST
|beautiful features! The Japanese calls it “masuku bijin”, or “mask
|beauty” for someone who looks beautiful in a mask.
|u/Financial_Sweet_689 - 1 month
|
|I don’t think this means you’re ugly. Seeing someone with a mask and
|then without one can just be really bizarre! Our brains get so used
|to seeing someone in a certain way, then half of their face just
|appears one day.
|u/foxtrottits - 1 month
|
|I met a girl during the pandemic who was wearing a mask the whole
|interaction. Got her number and we went out later that week, I was
|taken aback because I didn’t expect her to look the way she did. Not
|in a bad way, just not the face I had imagined while we were texting.
|We had a great night and even dated for about a month. She’s
|gorgeous, still follow her on ig lol.
|u/nckbrr - 1 month
|
|Asking questions about whether you're attractive on reddit.
|u/CarmenxXxWaldo - 1 month
|
|Being on reddit.
|u/Uninspired714 - 1 month
|
|Being.
|u/Hour_Insurance_7795 - 1 month
|
|You son of a bi…..yeah, you’re right 😁
|u/Mediumaverageness - 1 month
|
|I already know I'm ugly, do I need more clues?
|u/Hour_Insurance_7795 - 1 month
|
|Somebody looking at an old picture of you on Instagram: “You were a
|hottie when you were younger. Damn!” Wait, what do you mean “were”?
|🤣
|u/HungryHobbits - 1 month
|
|Twice when people saw pictures of me as a kid they’ve said “what
|happened!?” Kind of fucked. What the hell, college roommate Steven
|and aunt Joyce?
|u/Charlie_Runkle69 - 1 month
|
|I got this too when I put on weight.
|u/CompleteAd898 - 1 month
|
|When I lost weight everyone was like damn you lost weight!! I
|didn't even think I was that heavy. I kind of accidentally lost the
|weight trying a fad diet for funsies. And so many people were like,
|"Wow! You look So Good now!" I actually started to get upset.
|u/JulesPrestof - 1 month
|
|My own MOTHER did that to me the other day. That stings haha
|u/ikindalold - 1 month
|
|* no one hits on you * no one looks at you in a come-hither fashion *
|no one compliments you
|u/warm_vanilla_sugar - 1 month
|
|I thought that was just being a guy lol. Oh no...
|u/graveybrains - 1 month
|
|To be fair, a lot of us are just fucking oblivious 😂
|u/lokethedog - 1 month
|
|But I also sometimes get the feeling a lot of guys like to think
|they're oblivious, when it's actually just exremely rare that
|someone shows interest in them. Of course your brain will ignore
|or miss signals that pop up once every other year, that's not
|being oblivious, that's being unattractive.
|u/graveybrains - 1 month
|
|Couldn’t tell you. Evidence to date seems to indicate I managed
|to be both somehow, so I’m definitely not qualified to judge.
|u/coralloohoo - 1 month
|
|Team average!
|u/greaper007 - 1 month
|
|No, beyond very specific circumstances, women just don't hit on
|men. I'm fairly attractive and it's only happened to me a
|handful of times. It's just how society is setup.
|u/ChemistForeign2590 - 1 month
|
|Agreed 😂 I can tell when my partner is getting flirted with
|subtly by other women. When I tell him he was like “what, who,
|when?” Or maybe he did know and was just being a considerate
|partner 😊
|u/-something_original- - 1 month
|
|My wife would point out when she felt a woman was flirting with
|me. I had no clue.
|u/Expensive-Code-8791 - 1 month
|
|You gotta learn those little signals that women give. I've always
|had more girl friends than guy friends since I'm not hyper
|masculine, and knowing the little cues can do wonders for a man's
|self-esteem.
|u/Temporal_Somnium - 1 month
|
|That is being a guy
|u/X3N0N_21 - 1 month
|
|i could see the most attractive guy to ever exist and i would never
|make the first move let alone hit on him
|u/whatinthefuck- - 1 month
|
|That's unfortunate. In my experience, men do enjoy it when women
|have the confidence to make the first move. Making a dude blush is
|fun
|u/Temporal_Somnium - 1 month
|
|Why
|u/21Hotdogs21 - 1 month
|
|I've been hit on by guys But I'm a guy :(
|u/SwarleySwarlos - 1 month
|
|Still a compliment
|u/Waste_Cup7237 - 1 month
|
|absolutely
|u/Additional_Bat_2216 - 1 month
|
|That’s not being less attractive than I think then, because I already
|know that is my situation for a reason.
|u/ZenythhtyneZ - 1 month
|
|Idk the first two are… at least as a woman if every man you glance at
|abruptly SNAPS his head away to look any direction other than yours
|and don’t hit on you you may very well not be ugly, you might even be
|intimidatingly attractive
|u/isoAntti - 1 month
|
|Also, what are signs that you might not be as unattractive as you
|believe?
|u/SPriplup - 1 month
|
|The people that try to date you all seem more attractive than you
|think of yourself. Once it happened enough times growing up, I
|realized I can’t be that bad.
|u/Advanced-Wallaby9808 - 1 month
|
|>The people that try to date you haha yep already realized this
|doesn't apply to me. 🫡
|u/KingB24 - 1 month
|
|Same.
|u/rockhardcatdick - 1 month
|
|Bleh, dating apps make this feel goofy. I matched with a gorgeous
|woman lately who wanted to go on a date and I unmatched immediately
|because I just don't understand why a gorgeous woman would be
|interested in a bald guy like me. Dating apps have absolutely
|destroyed any kind of self confidence I had.
|u/momo5888 - 1 month
|
|people giving u compliments on ur looks unprompted/out of nowhere!
|i've lost some weight and my friends/ppl i've recently met have
|started doing that significantly more often, calling me gorgeous and
|hot midway thru a conversation. huge huge huge confidence booster!
|also, if you've had any success hooking up with ppl at bars/on nights
|out then you're more attractive than u think. there are a lot of
|reasons besides being ugly as to why you might not, but there isn't
|rly an answer for why you would other than that you aren't
|ugly/repulsive. you're probably at least average.
|u/XyRow666 - 1 month
|
|You guys are getting compliments?
|u/the_bird_and_the_bee - 1 month
|
|I too am curious about this one. We see the side that was posted here
|all the time but I've never seen the other side of this.
|u/AlwaysBored123 - 1 month
|
|As a very introverted woman who can never ever subjectively believe
|I could ever be attractive, but is considered objectively
|attractive I can give some common examples. -People, regardless
|of gender stare at you, and many times when you “catch them” they
|smile and wave. -People offer you jobs when you’re literally just
|walking around and mention it’s because of your appearance.
|-You’re a people magnet, regardless of age, where everyone is
|trying to get to know you. -When you enter a space they stare and
|when you get close enough or (I hate this) they follow you to tell
|you how attractive you are. -More times than not, your past
|partners are objectively attractive. -Your partners get insecure
|when they are with you. -People keep telling you that you should
|model. -People tell you that you shouldn’t worry about anything
|because you’re attractive. Overall, honestly none of these
|interactions I listed are ideal for an introvert who hates social
|interactions. I always feel like I’m being watched and it’s because
|I know I’m being watched. I can’t even drive without people
|following me in their cars or trying to start a convo through the
|window. I dread getting gas because that requires me to get out of
|my car. Even grocery shopping can be nerve wrecking for me. I will
|actually delay getting something I need if I can’t order it online
|first. Completely get the idea of walking down any street alone out
|of your head. Your problems don’t matter as much because “it’s okay
|you’re attractive”. You can’t initially trust your friends/family’s
|partners regardless of age, which is disgusting. The worst is that
|you never know who actually genuinely enjoys your company. The
|crushing feeling you get when you think someone is genuine and you
|start being yourself only for them to think that you’re interested.
|I can’t even trust people who are lesbian or gay which confuses me
|the most when this happens.
|u/bunDombleSrcusk - 1 month
|
|ill never forget the one time back in college when i walked right up
|to these 3 other students and one girl looked up at me with this like
|surprised expression and then just straight up said "oh! you have a
|nice face" so yea one sign is people just straight up telling you. a
|more subtle but related sign is a look of surprise thats not followed
|immediately by any negative looks (disgust, frowns, etc). sometimes
|they stare or look away either smol smirk, or neutral as if
|embarrassed to be caught staring (even tho they werent even looking
|long enough to count as staring yet)
|u/ProgramusSecretus - 1 month
|
|Maybe it’s just your personality!
|u/CarmenxXxWaldo - 1 month
|
|If you can't get a first date it's your looks, if you can't get a
|second date it's your personality. If you can't get a fourth date
|it's your tiny weiner.
|u/Kooky-Onion9203 - 1 month
|
|> If you can't get a first date it's your looks Or your people
|skills, which is somewhat distinct from your personality. I don't
|have a problem being charming *on* a date, but approaching people
|and trying to set one up is a nightmare.
|u/notapunk - 1 month
|
|I would also say that could easily apply to getting a second
|date as well. I'm just socially awkward AF and can fairly
|easily pull a first date off of an app, but after meeting it's
|a pretty consistent "great guy, but no connection". There
|really needs to be a dating app for introverted people on the
|spectrum lol
|u/gliitch0xFF - 1 month
|
|I feel personally attacked on all three points. 😭
|u/BuddyOptimal4971 - 1 month
|
|I notice that the inherent assumption in this thread is that if
|folks are just assuming you must be single that you're a guy.
|u/Kooky-Onion9203 - 1 month
|
|I mean, it's a statistically backed assumption. Men under 30
|are twice as likely to be single as women.
|u/mlk - 1 month
|
|I thought that too then realized I never REALLY approached a woman. I
|decided that day to hit on a girl in my class, she took my number but
|never called. I'll never be sure if I actually gave her the right
|number because I overthink so much I decided to tell her my phone
|number in a different way than I usually do. Later that night,
|liberated by this failure, I approached a girl I met for the first
|time that is now my wife. So I only really tried a day in my life.
|u/reaporbot - 1 month
|
|I just did the same thing. Got the courage to ask a girl out. Wrote
|down my number and name and handed it to her in crossing. 3 weeks
|later I'm typing this with no reach out.   It sucks, but also a
|confidence boost for putting myself out there 
|u/SwarleySwarlos - 1 month
|
|So you married 50% of the people you hit on. That's pretty
|impressive.
|u/SeniorAngle6964 - 1 month
|
|I met my (now) wife when I was 39. Best bit, it was a random
|encounter in my shared house kitchen, she was there meeting a friend
|but we just clicked. I’m now almost 50 and we’ve just hit the 7 year
|marriage anniversary! Never give up hope my friend.
|u/MoreGaghPlease - 1 month
|
|I don’t mean to be rude, but no, that’s not it. Lots of very
|unattractive people are coupled off, and usually to someone who’s
|kinda at their level. Even people who are like shockingly ugly very
|often have a partner. It’s really not a bar, there are just a huge
|huge number of people seeking companionship of every kind. Almost
|always when people say this it turns out to be something else, eg
|personality, hygiene, social skills, failure to launch, etc.
|u/Inevitable_Tone3021 - 1 month
|
|Totally agree. Looks can get you first dates but its chemistry that
|makes relationships.
|u/BillysBassBuzz - 1 month
|
|I feel like it's worse knowing that I'm decent enough looking, but
|my social skills are abysmal and I have a hard time talking to new
|people so I'll probably stay perpetually single
|u/TrueBoot4567 - 1 month
|
|37 and always been single here.
|u/ihaveadarkedge - 1 month
|
|This side of 30...? Wipe that pessimism away my friend. Everything
|can change in a single minute.
|u/Nedelka03 - 1 month
|
|38 and same. There is another possible explanation: everyone you've
|come across is already taken.
|u/No_Librarian_7725 - 1 month
|
|You might notice that people often seem distracted or uninterested when
|you're talking
|u/ChemistForeign2590 - 1 month
|
|Oh wow that’s rude, disrespectful, and very hurtful. Not all people
|suck! Unfortunately most are self centered
|u/SwarleySwarlos - 1 month
|
|That doesn't mean you're ugly, especially since this was family.
|Those people are just assholes.
|u/reddoot2024 - 1 month
|
|I think this is because I have ADHD and tend to ramble a lot lol
|u/A1ienspacebats - 1 month
|
|I find I get to the point too fast and my story is just wholly
|uninteresting.
|u/ChemistForeign2590 - 1 month
|
|I can so relate……
|u/ChemistForeign2590 - 1 month
|
|Yeah… I can get like that too. My problem is, I’m not interested in
|most people….
|u/secretagentnina - 1 month
|
|In college I would go out with my friend because she thought I was
|too introverted and needed to meet people. Everytime we went out,
|she would get hit on by at least one of the guys in the group and I
|would become the awkward 3rd wheel or the shield to stop them from
|flirting. I stopped going out with her after a while and made us do
|other things together instead lol
|u/ChemistForeign2590 - 1 month
|
|My partner likes to go to heavy metal 🤘🏽 concerts. It’s not really
|my thing. I’ll go because I love being a part of his joy! When I
|get tired of listening, I’ll go walk around. Get bored, approach
|random people, tell them I’m extremely introverted, my sister
|brings me to these things as to “get out more” and to prove to her
|I’m socializing so so can go home sooner can I take a selfie with
|you. 😂 I’ve only done this 4 times but I have yet to be turned
|down.
|u/WrongdoerEmotional47 - 1 month
|
|Someone Pls tell me why this happens to me all the time, even while
|answering to there serious questions, it hurts bad man when u finally
|open up to someone n they don't listen
|u/ChemistForeign2590 - 1 month
|
|Part of it is over sharing. Over sharing too soon can indicate
|desperation and poor boundaries
|u/yung_wavy_gravy - 1 month
|
|In high school I took a creative writing class and one day, towards
|the middle/end of the semester, we were all in a circle sharing a
|vulnerable thing about ourselves as a bonding activity and people
|could respond after if they had something nice to say. A lot of
|people shared some heavy stuff, and at least one other person said
|some words of reassurance or something nice in return. When it got to
|me, I said that I really struggled with my appearance and I had a
|very hard time ever feeling not ugly and... no one said anything. It
|was just silent until the person next to me shared their thing. Body
|dysmorphia had a pretty hard grip on me at the time, so this was
|quite devastating. I eventually worked through it after years of
|therapy and I'm finally ok with myself.
|u/YachtswithPyramids - 1 month
|
|That's just life on adhd earth tho.
|u/Upset-Salary-2728 - 1 month
|
|Damn. I'm ugly as fuck
|u/ChemistForeign2590 - 1 month
|
|That’s a good one. FYI I can listen to a conversation and be
|interested in it and pretend not to be even listening because I don’t
|want this very attractive person I’m working with know I want to jump
|their bones!!! 😂 possible but not fact
|u/Accidental_Taco - 1 month
|
|I rarely finish a conversation due to someone literally just stop
|paying attention to me
|u/ChemistForeign2590 - 1 month
|
|So rude and very hurtful 😞
|u/Nikitas20 - 1 month
|
|the mirror😑, also people always assume i’m single 🤷🏻‍♂️
|u/Marqlar - 1 month
|
|I’d bet that there are a number of people on here that are much better
|looking than they give themselves credit for. We are our worst critics
|u/the_bird_and_the_bee - 1 month
|
|I agree! We really are! Through others eyes we are usually much more
|beautiful than we think!
|u/JodieFostersStare - 1 month
|
|When I look in the mirror I see a fuck ugly guy looking back at me.
|u/moononfire33 - 1 month
|
|When you look in the mirror + feel cute, but then see yourself in
|photos + you look absolutely nothing like what you see in the mirror 😂
|u/Extreme_Somewhere419 - 1 month
|
|I think it’s about being photogenic
|u/beenbadminton - 1 month
|
|I prefer to say that my looks can only be appreciated in real-time.
|u/rikkionreddit - 1 month
|
|I like to think of trying to take a picture of the moon or a
|sunset. It never looks as good in the picture as it does in
|person
|u/snarksandploys - 1 month
|
|Thank you! This is becoming my new go to.
|u/OctopusParrot - 1 month
|
|I love this and I'm stealing it.
|u/twinsynth - 1 month
|
|Theres something about selfie camera's FOV that makes me a 4 from
|a 7. I know this cause I've been called cute irl but i say ew
|when the selfie camera boots up, fuck you selfiecam.
|u/aaron4400 - 1 month
|
|Camera lenses distort the image. Phones have wide lenses, especially
|the front facing one, so they will widen your features. Take a photo
|with a 35mm for relatively close to normal looking proportions. 50-70
|is common for portrait stuff because the distortion created is
|usually more flattering compared to wide angle
|u/dafuq_lr - 1 month
|
|A visualization of this: https://www.diyphotography.net/wp-
|content/uploads/2017/01/mJqIwLT-Imgur.gif
|u/Fun_Run1626 - 1 month
|
|I mean this is me, I just hate my photos, but then I get "hey
|beautiful" at work a lot. Shit's confusing lol.
|u/Common-Watch4494 - 1 month
|
|If people greet you like that you’re freaking gorgeous
|u/CompleteAd898 - 1 month
|
|Same. When I was online dating, I often got that I was more
|attractive in person.
|u/Far-Fortune-8381 - 1 month
|
|i think that’s al people
|u/Ok-Builder3049 - 1 month
|
|😭exactly im such a cutie in mirror but in pics...
|u/ThatCoryGuy - 1 month
|
|I should preface this by saying I’ve never thought I was attractive,
|but in my “prime” I wasn’t exactly the elephant man either. I was
|average then maybe a 5 on a good day, below average now. But once upon
|a time, when I was in my mid to late teens, I went on a family vacation
|with my parents, my aunt, uncle and cousin. We went to Florida, right
|near the beach, but on the second or third day the weather was
|questionable and the ocean was choppy, so we set up shop at the
|neighborhood pool. Near by another group of people were swimming in
|this community pool; one was a very cute girl. I saw a strange bug
|moving near her and called out to watch out because I wasn’t sure what
|it was. I moved and grabbed the creature and moved it safely away from
|the pool area. She thanked me and we began talking. I introduced her to
|my family and later that night we took a fairly romantic walk on the
|beach where she banged the fuck out of my cousin. As I was walking back
|to the house as they were actively trying to lick each others’ stomach
|linings and half-heartedly calling for me to come back. I just yelled
|over my shoulder, “A bike doesn’t need 3 wheels.” I figured it out
|then.
|u/Nikitas20 - 1 month
|
|damn😢🙏
|u/Martin_router - 1 month
|
|Damn duuuude I hope it's not real, come on :/
|u/ivanovic777 - 1 month
|
|I didn't understand the 3 wheels part. Care to explain? I'm not an
|English native speaker.
|u/fuzzywuzzy20 - 1 month
|
|With his cousin and the girl hooking up and him just standing
|around while they do their thing, that makes him the third wheel.
|A spare part basically
|u/Litzee - 1 month
|
|There probably is a similar phrase in your language too, when you
|want to express the feeling of being superfluous in a social
|context. In Germany we say 'to feel like the vehicle's fifth
|wheel'.
|u/No_Anteater8156 - 1 month
|
|Damn this is sad. This is the kind of situations that ruins one’s
|confidence for life. This is why I preach men/women brought around by
|friends and family are out of bounds, Idc if he/she is a perfect 10
|and want to have your kids, once they are introduced by friends and
|family as more than platonic friends, stay tf away. Don’t scar a
|friend or family trying to assert your male/female dominance
|u/Former_Hippo6799 - 1 month
|
|Yours don’t?
|u/memeparmesan - 1 month
|
|Why wouldn’t they? You need more supportive friends, homie.
|u/tournamentdecides - 1 month
|
|Me and my husband have a mutual friend who always jokingly calls
|him hot you need better homies
|u/curiouslycurioushmmm - 1 month
|
|😂😂😂
|u/HedonistMomus - 1 month
|
|If my boys call me cute then I know I'm ugly.
|u/Accidental_Taco - 1 month
|
|I'm a clown though so getting laughs does mean a lot
|u/OkIndependent6367 - 1 month
|
|When u smile to a baby they cry
|u/dapperrnapperr - 1 month
|
|I volunteer at a preschool and one time I looked at a toddler and he
|starting sobbing. Still hurts my feelings
|u/AnEnigmaAlways - 1 month
|
|LMAAAAAAO
|u/4lfred - 1 month
|
|That being high maintenance makes you unique. Example, I work in a
|high end restaurant and we have a regular who insists she’s “allergic”
|to almost everything. I’m not exaggerating, we have her on file with
|all of her dietary restrictions including the classics (gluten, dairy,
|meat, etc) but it gets ridiculous when we have to make her something
|that also excludes “salt, sugar, butter, sulfites, dairy, oil, heat,
|allium, and any vegetable that’s green”. I’m 100% serious, our chef
|has to come out and talk to her (per her request) to understand and
|accommodate her “needs” I get the sense that she thinks it’s charming,
|but the fact that she comes in with a different date every single time
|tells me that nobody is willing to put up with her shit.
|u/mondomiketron - 1 month
|
|When you walk by a window and see your reflection and it kinda ruins
|your day lol
|u/GlitterBirb - 1 month
|
|If you're a woman and men don't smile or laugh back when you're being
|friendly or joking. Just kind of stare through you like get to the
|point why are you wasting my time.
|u/BuzzImaPickle - 1 month
|
|I can attest to this. Sometimes people will actually pretend they
|don’t hear me or that I don’t exist entirely (always men). One time I
|tried to start a conversation at the dog park with a neighbor. I
|asked him a couple questions about his dog, but he didn’t seem to
|hear me and wasn’t looking my way. Tried again to get his attention
|but no luck. We were in close proximity so I thought eh he might be
|deaf and went about my day. The next day I saw him at the dog park
|introducing himself to a woman who is, I’ll admit, much more
|attractive than I am, but damn that was a harsh realization. At
|least us uglies don’t have to worry about people faking being nice
|just because of our looks? lol
|u/LushStellarNebula47 - 1 month
|
|if your selfies get fewer likes than your dog’s photos, it might be
|time for a reality check
|u/frederick_ungman - 1 month
|
|If I had a dog that looked like you, I'd shave its butt and train it
|to walk backwards.
|u/Waste_Cup7237 - 1 month
|
|felt it
|u/AlternativePoet3943 - 1 month
|
|The first time I overheard someone say I was attractive enough for sex.
|I'm average. I don't think I'm ugly. It hurts
|u/Commercial-Novel-786 - 1 month
|
|I don't believe I'm attractive at all. Now what?
|u/CaptainMagnets - 1 month
|
|You win!
|u/SuzieMusecast - 1 month
|
|The mirror.
|u/ConfidentShmonfident - 1 month
|
|Gets me every time
|u/PicklesGalore20 - 1 month
|
|People don’t look at you
|u/sorrymom333 - 1 month
|
|The filter turns off for a sec and it startles you 🥴
|u/sum_r4nd0m_gurl - 1 month
|
|when you only get compliments on your hair or clothes and nothing else
|😂
|u/smilineyz - 1 month
|
|TBH - on first approach I often compliment eyes or eyeglasses - if a
|woman is smoking hot - she hears about her awesome body - but a guy
|who takes the time to really look and give a sincere compliment is
|likely to get at least a conversation 
|u/IconicGod94 - 1 month
|
|The level of physical looks of those that respond to you hitting on
|them or feel comfortable hitting on you compared to the responses of
|those you think your on par with and totally shut you down....
|u/highxv0ltage - 1 month
|
|Mo one talks to you. No one wants to hang out with you. People you used
|to know won’t even keep in touch with you.
|u/Meneer_de_IJsbeer - 1 month
|
|That seems to have more to do with a shit perdonality rather then
|looks tbf. Unless ur really ugly that is
|u/sixfourtykilo - 1 month
|
|have you tried... .. leaving the house?
|u/Alternative_Grab664 - 1 month
|
|Here we go 🙄
|u/TheStol - 1 month
|
|1. be on Tinder 2. swipe everyone right 3. get hit by reality check
|u/ZombifiedPie - 1 month
|
|You spend time combing threads like these to see how many may apply to
|you for a sense of security.
|u/shut-the-fuck-up123 - 1 month
|
|I am aware I’m not attractive and I think my first sign was seeing my
|family members tell me how cute I was as a child and then asking what
|happened (I’m not overweight or anything I just never grew a jawline
|and have a lazy eye) And also the general public doesn’t really
|perceive me at all but then I had a massive shock when I joined the
|ambulance and in my ambulance uniform all of a sudden people where
|looking at me and then being overly nice to me which I actually don’t
|like at all, I’m glad I’m not pretty because that is very annoying
|having people try to randomly have conversations with me when I’m
|trying to do things
|u/Klouted - 1 month
|
|Great answer. More than a few ladies I know rack up astounding
|levels of online validation but rarely receive any compliments in
|person. I like to call them "Facebook pretty" so I can keep
|"catfish" specific to dating.
|u/Xebou - 1 month
|
|You don't get free stuff or hookups without asking.
|u/Huge_Bison1946 - 1 month
|
|Woman look at you as a safe friend someone to cuddle but nothing else
|I'm 62 only been with one woman I'm just a mate
|u/Waste_Cup7237 - 1 month
|
|someone to cuddle? It might be your are just too friendly and not
|making the first move
|u/LargeGirthy_Avocado - 1 month
|
|Women viewing as a safe friend absolutely does not mean you’re
|unattractive. It just means you make women feel comfortable around
|you. You sound like a decent guy who just has no game
|u/Mistakes_Were_Made73 - 1 month
|
|Ducks attack me when I step out in public.
|u/Clear_Art_6646 - 1 month
|
|As someone who was obese his entire life, lost 100lbs between 27-29, I
|went from being a 3 to a solid 7 in the looks department. I would tell
|the same jokes, stories, ideas, and people would pay attention, laugh,
|converse, flirt. Then I slowly gained the weight back from 31-33, and
|am invisible again. I was angry for a long time that my personality
|hadn't changed as much, but people treated me way differebtly. However,
|I realized that it's evolutionary. I don't blame people nor society.
|But I do believe you can do something about it: Are you fat? Lose
|weight Scrawny? Gain muscle Bad hair? Pay a hairstylist once to find
|something that looks good Got glasses? Get good frames Clothes? Find
|things that fit Boring? Pick up hobbies, read, do something, do
|anything Social anxiety? Find help or do what I did which is,
|research and read a shit ton of self help Bad teeth? Save up for
|braces/invisilign We live in a time where so much is possible. There
|are no hacks. You build yourself, step by step, brick by brick, day by
|day. It's hard, so enjoy the process.
|u/happy_accountant123 - 1 month
|
|Just go on a dating app. Really will smack real hard.
|u/Live-Prior7509 - 1 month
|
|this sounds so scary i’ll never take the risk
|u/Anteatereatingant - 1 month
|
|That's the one. I made a Tinder profile because friends kept pushing
|me with "just be cooooonfident, stop being so neeeeegative, just Put
|Yourself Out There - no reason you can't geta date!".  So I made a
|profile just to shut them up, and it went exactly as expected: I
|swiped right on 220 guys, got two matches, of which one never replied
|and the other one disappeared halfway through the conversation (and
|no, by "conversation" I don't mean that I was being creepy and
|sending dick pics or asking weird questions). I'm a bald fat guy in
|his mid-30s who probably looks more like mid-40s thanks to the whole
|bald and fat thing. Even at my "best" (younger, leaner, good head of
|hair) I wasn't that much to look at - but now? Fugheddaboudit. My
|friends were shocked that the real world doesn't work like the PC La
|La Land in their head. I wasn't upset because I saw it coming.
|u/Isitgum - 1 month
|
|When the grocery store clerks ask me if I want to use a senior discount
|and I'm in my 40s 😭
|u/Ok_Zookeepergame531 - 1 month
|
|You can look up in a room full of people and nobody looks at you
|u/therapoootic - 1 month
|
|there are no signs, you just know and when you forget, people remind
|you
|u/TisIChenoir - 1 month
|
|Seeing as I think of myself as an ugly duckling, it would pain me to be
|less attractive than I already believe...
|u/Way_2_Go_Donny - 1 month
|
|No one takes the empty seat next to you.
|u/__Z__ - 1 month
|
|The other day someone took the seat next to me on the bus and started
|talking to me. It was a man (I'm not gay) who was a little
|disheveled, but holy shit was I flattered.
|u/Signal_Common_6345 - 1 month
|
|You grow up without being asked out or complimented on appearance
|outfit hair or anything in the slightest even once through 19+ years.
|u/Sasaavy - 1 month
|
|Attractive people don’t work hard to hook up, have sex, be in
|relationships, it just falls in their lap— I see it a lot with people
|in their early thirties, you are not young and cute anymore, and if you
|aren’t wealthy, you better be ready to work and develop a kind
|personality like the rest of us.
|u/StreetIndependence62 - 1 month
|
|You can DEFINITELY still be cute in your 30’s if you’re able to
|exercise and eat healthy (yes I know this is not *literally* everyone
|but it’s still a LOT) 
|u/Early_Lawfulness_348 - 1 month
|
|Yup. I got fat and I was trying to figure out what was wrong with me
|for years. I couldn’t get many dates. Then, I got in shape and all of
|the sudden people are interested again. People are simple creatures.
|u/DistributionSmooth77 - 1 month
|
|Having a Reddit username
|u/HonoluluEpstein - 1 month
|
|You used to be but then you got old. The mirror don't lie
|u/SippingSomeTae - 1 month
|
|People ignore or just isn't paying as much attention when you're
|talking.
|u/WordIndependent - 1 month
|
|This subreddit is designed to make you feel insecure.
|u/WeirdPiccolo9749 - 1 month
|
|Nobody makes eye contact more than they have to.
|u/miissbecca - 1 month
|
|Probably mainly just people not paying attention to you. When you walk
|in a room do people stare? I feel like even moderately attractive
|people (maybe just women) get stares whenever they go.
|u/National-Drag2007 - 1 month
|
|You have to take pictures/selfies over and over again because you don’t
|“look right”.
|u/MediocreCommercial10 - 1 month
|
|If you feel good after getting catcalled by creepy people (truck
|drivers, etc)
|u/NychtaNox - 1 month
|
|I once flinched at myself in a reflection I wasn’t expecting.
|u/infected_fissure - 1 month
|
|Villagers with torches and pitchforks chase you out of town.
|u/Alpha_ji - 1 month
|
|The mirror. I hype myself but a man got to be real
|u/__Z__ - 1 month
|
|Yeah the mirror keeps me grounded 🤣
|u/Anything_3618 - 1 month
|
|Bold of you to assume I believe that.
|u/beanieque86 - 1 month
|
|I don't believe I am in any capacity so I think I'm safe lol
|u/McSix - 1 month
|
|The old phrase is "tall, dark, and handsome," not "short, bald, and
|hairy."
|u/andygoblin - 1 month
|
|who said i believe i'm attractive LMAO no, i'm a realist
|u/uselesslydevoted - 1 month
|
|I don’t think I’m attractive 🤷🏻‍♂️ but I am very well dressed.
|u/ThomasLomeo26 - 1 month
|
|i don't know what the signs are... but i know my ego gets way out of
|control if i let it. i will think im hot shit... but im really just a
|big ole bag o shit! 🤣😭 🫶
|u/TostadoAir - 1 month
|
|If no one you find attractive asks you out based solely on your
|appearance, then you are not attractive.
|u/ZodiacRedux - 1 month
|
|When you go to peel an onion,and IT starts crying.
|u/Admirable_Excuse_818 - 1 month
|
|People are only interested in you for your body but will never listen
|or engage with you past what they can get from you physically. E.g.
|physical characteristics are more important than substance. Truly
|attractive people are social magnets and not just 'pretty' they're
|confident with a skill or art and disciplined practicing it. They're
|usually talented, charming, and naturally magnetic. A silent
|confidence that is attractive.
|u/Maewhen - 1 month
|
|If people are interested in you at all that’s a win
|u/Tiger-In-The-Woods - 1 month
|
|The guy in the mirror keeps telling me I'm ugly.
|u/WeirdPiccolo9749 - 1 month
|
|When you’ve gone through at least 6 mirrors in like..a fucking month.
|Never thought I’d say it but, I’m tired of going to Kohl’s or HomeGoods
|so Goddamn much.
|u/Solifuga - 1 month
|
|Your face looks normal in a fun house mirror.
|u/Limp-Strategy-2268 - 1 month
|
|One sign might be if you rarely get compliments or attention in social
|settings, even when you're dressed up or making an effort. It can be a
|subtle reality check that our perception of ourselves doesn't always
|match how others see us.
|u/Equivalent_Delays_97 - 1 month
|
|New acquaintances tend to involuntarily wince and briefly look away
|upon first meeting you. Once in a while, one of them may inadvertently
|let an “Oh god!” or “Jesus Christ!” slip out under their breath.
|u/edokoa - 1 month
|
|I guess this doesn't apply if you're actually Jesus Christ...
|u/JuustinB - 1 month
|
|Social media is a good barometer. If you’ve never gotten any
|unsolicited attention from a woman on there, you’re probably not that
|attractive. To me, Facebook or Instagram has always been like shooting
|fish in a barrel. No need to even mess with dating apps (35m).
|u/Remotely-Indentured - 1 month
|
|PHOTOS!!!!
|u/lamabaronvonawesome - 1 month
|
|Unpossible!
|u/thatgerhard - 1 month
|
|being on grindr and on fathers day you get messages "happy fathers day
|daddy"... dammit
|u/WanMax100 - 1 month
|
|Being alone, men don't approach me, or at least they don't look for
|anything serious.
|u/LtM4157 - 1 month
|
|I go down the list of Reddit comments. That’s me. That’s me. THAT is
|definitely me. That’s me. So on and so forth.
|u/Wranglin_Pangolin - 1 month
|
|The mirror shatters when I look at it.
|u/MentalDefects - 1 month
|
|Lazy eye, I'm in. It's really not that noticeable, but, when it's been
|drilled into your head that you're cross-eyed your entire life, you see
|it worse than it is.
|u/chulyen66 - 1 month
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|When I see photos of myself.
|u/JJisafox - 1 month
|
|Being funny can be an attractive quality, it's not always just a
|filler compliment. Depends on context of course.
|u/takesthebiscuit - 1 month
|
|People just touch me all the time, Never used to happen, when I was
|skinny had wonky teeth and a shit haircut But now my arms are full of
|muscles and I have a great smile folk seem to touch my arms and
|shoulders all the time. If folk are not making passing contact with
|you, you are not that attractive
|u/__Z__ - 1 month
|
|As someone who is not that attractive, that blows my mind. People
|just.... touch you? That sounds so warm and fuzzy 🤣
|u/Fun_Intention9846 - 1 month
|
|Strangers avoid eye contact and interrupt you a lot while being
|dismissive. When they do make eye contact there’s a slight sneer.
|Like one side tiniest bit of lip curl. It’s supremely gross to see
|happen.
|u/Exact-Part-6645 - 1 month
|
|Attractiveness is relative.
|u/Roozyj - 1 month
|
|Yeah this. I think I'm stunning and have a partner who agrees xD If
|the rest of the world doesn't think so, honestly, that only means I
|have fewer hearts to break \^\^
|u/Exact-Part-6645 - 1 month
|
|Well what I meant was attractiveness is not always the physical.
|We all lose our looks so our looks can't sustain a relationship.
|Attractiveness can come from confidence, how you live your life,
|and your values.
|u/gochomoe - 1 month
|
|Women and children scream and run away.
|u/SparkledIceDudette - 1 month
|
|I found out I'm not as hot as I believed I was when I had to lower my
|standards! 🤣🤣🤣 But in my defense, I did it in my early 20's.
|u/puledrotauren - 1 month
|
|My mirror generally dissuades me from thinking I'm 'attractive'.
|u/NefariousnessOk8965 - 1 month
|
|I know I’m not ugly, but men have rarely asked me out in public. It’s
|not necessarily you….it’s a strong possibility that they aren’t as bold
|anymore. I really don’t know anyone who’s been asked out in public
|u/Isaandog - 1 month
|
|If you are alive now, have any social media, then you 100% are either
|not as Attractive (or) Ugly as you believe you are. We are in the Age
|of Ego-Dystonia.
|u/Logical-Student984 - 1 month
|
|When I look in the mirror i look drop dead gorgeous. But if I stare at
|me for too long i realize i have two different size of eyes. Different
|shapes of eyebrows and a uneven asymmetrical face and a bigass forehead
|u/Glass_Ad_6357 - 1 month
|
|They gave me money on our first meeting
|u/Extreme_Somewhere419 - 1 month
|
|When your out with a guy and see beautiful females the guy your with
|walks behind you
|u/Deichgraf17 - 1 month
|
|Since attractiveness is in the eye of the beholder, you are exactly as
|attractive as you believe yourself to be.
|u/royal_dansk - 1 month
|
|When they tell you how kind you are or smart but never how you look
|good.
|u/itsmarvin - 1 month
|
|Unprompted, they tell you they have a gf/bf.
|u/universitycommon2 - 1 month
|
|People scatter like the safari animals in the Lion King when Pemba
|approaches the watering hole
|u/guitarlisa - 1 month
|
|My friend just posted a photo of my new foster dog and I was in it :-(
|u/BricksInMotion902 - 1 month
|
|Don’t need signs to know I’m ugly baby girl nice try
|u/Effective-Access4948 - 1 month
|
|Damn... Guess I'm ugly after reading all this lol
|u/hanxiousme - 1 month
|
|My friend in high school (well over a decade ago) said straight to my
|face that I wasn’t his type as I was visually offensive. I’ve thought
|about it often.
|u/ufonique - 1 month
|
|Most guys pretty much know where they stand when it comes to
|attractiveness, that is something you pick up on very early on in your
|life, at least in my experience.
|u/SquirrellyGrrly - 1 month
|
|I think this is a crappy question. If someone feels hot, let them.
|Don't crowdsource reasons for people to lose their self confidence.
|Geesh.
|u/Mediumaverageness - 1 month
|
|You played hide and seek and after three weeks in the closet you begin
|to understand. OR You passed out drunk and woke up wearing more
|clothes, in a capsule flying a solar escape trajectory.
|u/Sara___Tonin__ - 1 month
|
|Your new SO says they have low self-esteem.
|u/Aggressive_Layer6366 - 1 month
|
|no shagging is a clue (Y)
|u/Elliejq88 - 1 month
|
|According to the Internet, men you date not treating you well.
|u/BrowningLoPower - 1 month
|
|No one asks you out, probably.
|u/ThersATypo - 1 month
|
|You're only looking at yourself in the mirror from the front. 
|u/Zincktank - 1 month
|
|If you don't regularly catch random people gazing at you, you're not
|super attractive.
|u/Professional_Cow1157 - 1 month
|
|People always complimenting my eyes. I get it, they're big, nicely
|shaped, chock full of naturally long eyelashes and a nice shade of
|blue/gray. But it kind of feels like they're the only nice thing about
|me. Nobody ever says anything about my face, or smile, or body, its
|just the eyes, always the eyes. Also i was bullied for years in school
|for being ugly, so i never really harboured any delusions of being
|"hot". I'm often called "unfuckable bitch" in social media arguments to
|shut me up when arguments run out so... Yeah, not hot. But damn.
|u/cottenwess - 1 month
|
|when you say how attractive you are, people around you do that reverse
|snort nose exhale laugh
|u/Die-hardRomantic - 1 month
|
|If you've never had a Real gf before, my own cousin & our friends used
|to joke about how ugly I was, one of them once jokingly said "you only
|love me for my body", cause I used to be broke af with nothing to do no
|one to hang out with or anything so I used to work out like 24/7. I
|used to be hideous, my cousin has had like 3-4 different gfs while
|growing up & I never even had one.
|u/Rose_Buck24 - 1 month
|
|If you have an inflated ego, then your sense of your own attractiveness
|is almost certainty exaggerated a bit.
|u/stinkbug2000 - 1 month
|
|Well I read the question as "you may not be as attentive as you
|believe?" After being very confused by the first answer of kids
|calling you ugly I reread the question... In answer to the question I
|thought I read, I would have to point out everything that I just typed
|as exhibit A for my inattentiveness.
|u/Ephimeral_Drifter - 1 month
|
|I never think I am even the ok types .. in terms of looks . So I never
|get bothered by any such signs
|u/No-Issue-4438 - 1 month
|
|Sometimes, if people don't seem interested in you or you rarely get
|compliments, it might mean you're not as attractive as you think.
|Attraction isn't just about looks; it’s also how others respond to your
|presence and personality. Pay attention to how people act around you.
|u/PlankownerCVN75 - 1 month
|
|When someone looks at you and screams, “MY EYES!!!!”
|u/captn_morgan951 - 1 month
|
|Mirror reflections and photos do it for me.
|u/IdontKnow-DoYouKnow - 1 month
|
|Ha! Jokes on you, I don’t believe myself to be attractive! :D
|u/lavenderacid - 1 month
|
|My ex-girlfriend was *convinced* she was the most attractive person
|around. She used to go out wearing neon pink, fluffy, high heeled
|boots, paired with this denim jacket which had the sleeves cut off and
|these weird fluffy, sequined suspenders instead of the arms. She
|dressed like an absolute crazy person, you'd definitely double take if
|she walked past you, because she looked actually mental. She was
|convinced everyone stared at her because she was just too beautiful to
|look away from. If you're dressed fucking crazy, people probably
|aren't looking at you because you're attractive.
|u/Only_Ad9953 - 1 month
|
|Now that I have seen all of the signs and realized that most of them
|are, unfortunately, relatable, how do I cope with not being attractive?
|u/Budget_Curve_9151 - 1 month
|
|Lots of laughing/giggling, but you’re never in on the joke.
|u/Dentist_Rodman - 1 month
|
|when the women i think i can pull don’t like me back lmao
|u/Lower_Appointment151 - 1 month
|
|The only ones liking your sexy online pictures are yourself, your mom,
|your best friend and your little brother.
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